We’re guessing you’ve attended your share of weddings and perhaps have walked down the aisle yourself.
Which is to say, you probably have an idea of what makes a good wedding gift…and how the etiquette surrounding the giving and receiving is supposed to go.
So here’s what one couple chose as a present for recent newlyweds:
A wicker box with a hinged lid filled with “tri-color pasta, salsas, Balsamic vinegar and Olive, Gourmet croutons, Panko Breading, Pesto, some baking ingredients, Biscuits from Godiva and a few ‘Fun’ items like Marshmallow Fluff, Sour Patch Kids and Butterscotch sauce.”
On the accompanying card was this message: “Life is delicious….Enjoy”
The recipients of the basket were, according to a hilarious piece in the Spectator of Hamilton, Ontario, not particularly thrilled.
Here’s a text message from “Bride 1″ to the basket-giver:
Heyyy I just wanna say thanks for the gift but unfortunately I can’t eat any of it lol I’m gluten intolerant. Do u maybe have a receipt
To which the basket-giver replied:
Ahh s–t! Really!?
We had a great time. Thank you again for allowing us to be a part of the celebration.
The basket-giver goes on to tell the Spectator that he was “a little thrown off by this. A few weeks before the two of them came to eat at the Italian restaurant I currently work at (paying with the Gift Card I had my owner donate to their doe and doe…..but I digress), and both ate pasta, and not our gluten free stuff either.”
Anyway, the basket-giver soon got the following text:
Hey…it’s (Bride 1′s) wife Laura. I want to thank you for coming to the wedding Friday. I’m not sure if it’s the first wedding you have been to, but for your next wedding… People give envelopes. I lost out on $200 covering you and your dates plate… And got fluffy whip and sour patch kids in return. Just a heads up for the future :)
Thoroughly fuming, the basket-giver sent a lengthy diatribe to the new married couple via Facebook:
Hi , I want to tell you how incredibly insulted I am in both of the messages you have sent me over the last two days. (Bride 1), I am sorry that you have intolerance to Gluten, I am sure that makes life difficult at times. However, to ask for a receipt is unfathomable. In fact it was incredibly disrespectful. It was the rudest gesture I have encountered, or even heard of. That is until you, Laura, messaged me today.
Laura, the message you sent to me today was by far the most inconsiderate, immature, greedy, and asinine thing I have ever had the displeasure of seeing.
This is not even close to being the first wedding I have attended, and actually I have done a lot of research on wedding etiquette, a step in the process the two of you clearly skipped over (clearly displayed by Laura chewing gum, like a cow does hay, while walking down the aisle). Here is some help for you..just a heads up for the future.
The Bride’s Etiquette Guide: Etiquette Made Easy, Second Edition. Here is the link. [...]
In retrospect, this is the exact style of behavior I should have expected from the two of you, when you used the gift card donated to your doe and doe for a personal date night, then had the gall to ask your server for the “friends and family discount”.
I’m sure that one, or the two of you will mature, and grow into adults who will take a different, more respectful, LOVE based approach when you invite guests to your next wedding.
The texts continued apace, first a response from Laura, Bride 2:
Again… Out of 210 people at a wedding… The only I gift I got from all was yours… And fluffy whip and sour patch kids. Your Facebook message had nothing to do with the gift. Weddings are to make money for your future.. Not to pay for peoples meals. Do more research. People haven’t gave gifts since like 50 years ago! You ate steak, chicken, booze, and a beautiful venue. To be exact the plates were $97 a person… But thanks again for the $30 gift basket my wife can’t even eat. If anything you should be embarrassed for being so cheap and embarrassing yourself walking in with a gift basket probably re gifted cheap ass. Again.. Out of 210 people, you were the talk and laugh of the whole wedding!!!! Worst gift ever story Is being passed along to everyone!! How about you tell people what you gave as a 2 person gift to a wedding and see what normal functioning people say about it!! Do a survey with people u know… And tell me what 100% of them tell you!! Wake up dude
Basket-guy parried back:
it’s obvious you have the etiquette of a twig, I couldn’t care less of what you think about the gift you received, “normal” people would welcome anything given, you wanna have a party, you pay for it, DON’T expect me to, I don’t care what you or anybody thinks, you should just be happy your sham of a marriage is legal dude!
(Note: Here the basket-giver acknowledges that he shouldn’t have thrown in a pot shot about the couple’s same-sex wedding, but he was “mad, and lost my train of thought for a brief moment.”)
Bride 2 continued her walk down the warpath:
Lol. Your an idiot. Go research more on life
You should have been cut from the list.. I knew we were gunna get a bag of peanuts.. I was right
Never argue with an idiot. They will bring you down to their level and beat you with experience. - George Carlon. [sic]
You just proved this to be true.
Thanks for the fluffy whip :). Have a good day
So what do you think?
Was the basket gift acceptable or in poor taste?
Was the reaction of the newlyweds justified or out of line?