Dr. Keith Ablow Chides Cultural Efforts to Drop Gender Identity Cues
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NEW YORK (AP) — If a girl wants to try her hand at baseball or ice hockey, she’s likely to be praised as plucky. But if a boy likes the color pink?
Well, that’s a toenail of a different color.
Last month, J. Crew unleashed a furor when a promotion depicted its creative director, Jenna Lyons, painting her 5-year-old son Beckett’s toenails with pink nail polish. “Lucky for me, I ended up with a boy whose favorite color is pink,” the caption read.
Dr. Keith Ablow, a psychiatrist and regular guest on Fox News, didn’t approve.
“It may be fun and games now, Jenna, but at least put some money aside for psychotherapy for the kid,” he wrote on Foxnews.com. “This is a dramatic example of the way that our culture is being encouraged to abandon all trappings of gender identity.”
In fact, Lyons and her son had stepped on a cultural land mine. Gender stereotypes for America’s children are less rigid than in the past, but they remain a pervasive part of popular culture and a benchmark for parents. Moreover, the changes in recent decades have been more dramatic for girls than boys.
So Ablow quickly found support. One Million Moms, an offshoot of the conservative American Family Association, urged followers to write protest letters to J. Crew and asserted that “nontraditional activities … can be destructive and damaging to a child’s identity and self-esteem.”
Just as quickly, there was a backlash from people who liked Beckett’s pink toenails. Hundreds of people accepted a Facebook invitation to join “Pink Toenail Polish Day” on Monday, and Anne Fausto-Sterling, a professor of biology and gender studies at Brown University, urged Lyons’ critics to “take a deep breath” and not worry if kids don’t always fit a “cardboard cutout stereotype of gender roles.”
“Kids explore, sample, test and learn,” she wrote in a Psychology Today blog. “They should have the freedom to do this and the strength to grow into interesting human beings.”
Across the spectrum of politics and parenting philosophies, it’s a topic that captivates people.
“For girls nowadays, it‘s OK to play with boys’ toys, dress like boys, talk like them — it’s often encouraged,” said Isabelle Cherney, a Creighton University psychologist. “Boys have to walk a much finer line, and their fathers tend to be more stereotyped, telling them not to deviate from what’s typically seen as masculine.”
For little girls and their parents, there’s ample room to maneuver. Ultra-feminine toys and activities abound, along with an ever-growing range of “tomboy” sports options and other pursuits that in the past were mostly the domain of boys.
“The norms of femininity have expanded much more than the norms for masculinity — a lot more androgyny is allowed for girls,” said Judith Stacey, a professor of social and cultural analysis at New York University.
“With boys, it’s not seen as OK to wear skirts, play with princesses’ wands,” she said. “There’s still a lot of anxiety about being sufficiently masculine.”
The trends are reflected in career aspirations. Women now make up close to half the enrollment in U.S. law and medical schools, up from less than 25 percent a few decades ago, yet men continue to shun nursing as a career, comprising only about 8 percent of registered nurses.
William Pollack, a professor in the Psychiatry Department at Harvard Medical School, has written extensively about the challenges facing American boys and hopes the stereotypes affecting them are loosening. “Keeping boys in the gender straight jacket was not good for them,” he said.
“If a boy wants to dress up now and then in his mother’s clothes, what he’s doing is identifying with one of the most loved people in his life — he’s not dis-identifying with being a boy.”
Pollack said many fathers are torn over gender-role issues, supporting the concept of less rigid stereotypes yet worried that their sons might be ostracized if they partake in activities viewed by their peers as unmasculine: “We still socialize boys to follow their more aggressive side rather than their more thoughtful and caring side. We’re basically telling boys that the worst thing they can be is a girl.”
Feminists with sons find themselves swimming against the tide. Imani Perry, a professor at Princeton’s Center for African American Studies, says she teaches her sons, 4 and 7, to believe in gender equality, but finds it challenging that many of their friends’ parents tend to reinforce stereotypes.
“My sons have been so disappointed by gender-specific birthday parties … and confused by the princess culture their girl friends are so often caught up in,” Perry wrote in an e-mail.
Amy Richards, mother of 5- and 7-year-old sons in New York City, is a feminist activist and author of “Opting In: Having a Child Without Losing Yourself.” A former college soccer player, Richards is pleased that her sons are good athletes, but also is wary of lapsing into gender stereotypes. For example, she made a point of taking them to see the New York Liberty, a women’s pro basketball team.
“I try not to overemphasis masculinity and devalue femininity,” she said. “I don‘t want to buy only ’boy toys’ for them … I’ve never purchased an action hero figure.”
In Chicago, social worker Keisha Farmer-Smith counsels adolescent girls at work. At home, she’s a single mom raising sons Kaleb, 7, and Khalil, 12 — and encouraging them to think creatively about gender roles.
She recalled how Khalil, at 5 or 6, had a cuddly doll named Mikey that rarely left his possession.
“My ex-husband was so upset that I would allow him to have this doll,” Farmer-Smith said. “It came down to me supporting my son. He said, ‘I want to be a good parent. I love Mikey. I want him to see me play ball.’”
Glenn Stanton, director for family formation studies at the Christian ministry Focus on the Family, believes male/female differences should be emphasized to children, rather than blurred, on the premise that each gender has essential strengths.
However, Stanton, who has a son and four daughters, says he welcomes a move away from polarized gender roles — what he calls the “pretty in pinks” and “macho Joes.”
“We’re moving away from the crazy stereotypes,” he said. “But we‘re not saying that gender doesn’t matter.”
For Keith Ablow, blurring of gender roles could have momentous long-term consequences.
“It will be a very big deal if it turns out that neither gender is very comfortable anymore nurturing children above all else,” he wrote, “and neither gender is motivated to protect the nation by marching into combat against other men and risking their lives.”
“Maybe we’ll all have shiny, colored lips, though, and pierced ears and perfect eyebrows.”
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Comments (149)
FalconOfStorms
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 11:15pmBetween this and the “SlutWalk”, humanity is on the verge of suicide. Why do some people insist on twisting things so far from their intention that they are unrecognisable? Damn this warped social experimentation so recklessly being perpetrated on our nation.
Report Post »HowardBeale1
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 11:24pmFIGHT THE POWER, my friend.
Report Post »mossbrain
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 11:06pmNail polish isn‘t for me but there’s a tough as nails MMA fighter who paints his nails. I forgot his name, it’s that guy who dies his hair flaming red. Damn he takes punch after punch square in the face and just keeps charging into his opponent like a zombie who refuses to die.
Report Post »Silversmith
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 10:29pmYeah — that’s right Raise your kids without gender identity, and while you’re at it, throw out your religion, the constitution, your cultural identity is of the world now!!
The less you have to believe in, the less you know who you are and what you want and what you stand for – just the way the control freak progressives want you — nice and malleable.
Silversmith
Report Post »Therightsofbilly
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 12:02am^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Report Post »I’ll 2nd that.
Dougral
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 10:27pmI don’t approve of trying to neutralize gender roles. Boys and girls were created differently for a reason. Its hubris on a grand scale for mankind to think that can be casually tinkered with. I believe its part of the idea of sameness that is being pushed. The left wants us all to be the same, like bricks in a wall. I see it everywhere, even in new housing developments. I drove by one tonight and noticed that all the homes were built the same style and all had grey siding. I told my wife it looked like a place for robots to live. She agreed. Resist the sameness and remain individuals. Its our biggest weapon against the left.
Report Post »geonj
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 10:21pmtestosterone will out. metrosexuals have been left by the wayside. as the saying goes “boys will be boys”. and thank God for the difference.
Report Post »BonnieBlueFlag
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 10:07pmIt’s not that it is new for a mother to do this type of thing, after all, Ernest Hemingway’s mother dressed him as a girl when he was a child.
What’s sad about this story is not that a mom and son could be doing girly things together (moms have done that for centuries) it‘s that this particular mom isn’t afraid of what her husband will say. It‘s not about what’s *in* the story as what’s *missing*: real male bonding from a father, which counterbalances overly feminine influences of a mother.
When my dad was in Dessert Storm, my little brother would sneak into my room to play with my Barbie dolls and it caused major fighting between my brother and I. So, my mother bought him his own Barbie. When my dad got home, he went BALLISTIC. My brother’s Barbie was thrown out immediately. My brother is not gay or feminine today.
So, maybe I shouldn’t judge this woman; maybe her husband is serving in Afghanistan and she is just being a typical mom, but somehow I doubt it. Get this kid a father with some BALLS.
Report Post »WHITE LOTUS2x
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 10:00pmPink is a pretty color but why would a mother paint her sons toenails pink? Even if he liked pink. Boys are boys and girls are girls. Girls can move toward a boys fashions and sports and activities much easier than the little guys can…….have the intrests the little girls do. I dont think I would be trying to influence the little guys much on that matter. Let them just be little guys if thats what they are comfortable with. Lotus.
Report Post »cookcountypatriot
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 9:55pmdid you notice that all the progressive phychologists make the dads out to be the ones who are off and sterotypical….lets face it..its a progressive womans world now…lol,, till 2012 anyway..when my son wanted to get his ear pierced i told him 2 people in this family wear earings ..your mother and your sister….period…that was 15 yrs ago…he,s 20 now and no earings..dads need to be men and dads
Report Post »HorseCrazy
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 12:11amI love that comment about the 2 people in the house that wear earrings!
Report Post »TheGreyPiper
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 9:40pm“Plaid skirts and knee socks”??? Ahem, check the login name pls ;- }
True, there was a time when men & women both wore wigs, lace collars, etc. And Scotsmen do still wear kilts, which to some resemble skirts.
True also, fashions and styles change. What an average man wore for clothing, headgear, and even makeup 2 or hundred years ago might certainly seem effeminate today — I understand that at one time pink was a decidedly male color.
However, at those times, those were unquestionably male-appropriate styles. (As the kilt still is.) A man wearing pink lace in the court of Louis XIV was not dressing effeminately. What they are trying to do now is quite distinct: this is a deliberate attempt, not to change a style, but to encourage the genders to adopt the others behavior and manner. If it becomes the style once again for men to powder their faces and apply beauty marks (or even applying eyeliner), that is one thing (startling though it may be). To encourage boys and young men to do the same >because< it is a feminine thing to do is quite another.
Oh, and if any of ye Sassanachs have any questions aboot the propriety o' a mon wearin' a kilt, come and see me sometime. Me and ma skean dhu and my Gurka kukhri will glodly answer ony questions ye mought hae'.
Report Post »chips1
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 10:13pmLook under the kilt. If it’s a quarter pounder, It’s a McDonald.
Report Post »tierrah
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 4:32amdang, Piper: Love the Scottish accent. Do you really own a skean dhu? Wear it atop your stockings? I’m not a Sassanach ’cause my ancestors hail from beautiful Scotland – the Highlands!!
Report Post »Strongconservitive
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 9:38pmWomen have curves, and oranges, men have sticks and it depends on the orange. This difference is important because of the biological difference between a boy and a girl. and they need to be treated differently by seperate clothes, and restrooms, for privacy reasons. This is natural all the way around however to create toys, and collors and tell them that boys must like black and red while girls must love pink and purple, and both can love blue and green is rediculous. Colors are a part of nature however to give them a significant meaning is nonsince, so it is with toys, and activities. There are women that are more physical than boys, and there are boys that do not mind being emotional.
Report Post »We need to stop telling them this nonsence because boys are becoming confused fools that are violent while women are becoming scared weaklings that cannot defend themselves. We got to end this for their sake because if we dont then they will need help because they will be suck later in life.
ghost-of-elvis
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 10:27pmwomen are becoming scared weaklings who cannot defend themselves??? it seems to me that women are becoming more violent than ever and it is becoming more and more accepted in our society… I believe in raising boys to be men who respect women but also respect and understand their roles and responsibility in respect to women… call me old fashioned but I think that men should be providers and protecters of the family… to me the greatest occupation a woman can have is to provide a wholesome and loving environment in the home for the entire family.. to allow somebody else (daycare, babysitters, etc.) to raise your children unless it is a neccesity is in my eyes very selfish and we are seeing the results of this attitude towards parenting in the behavior in the majority of young americans coming up now… we need to get back to basics and christian values in this country and it all starts with the family.. I am 30 years old and my wife just gave birth to our first child 4 months ago.. I thank God daily that He has given me a partner who believes the same as I do… I do not make the best salary out there but if I have to sacrifice of my own wants to give this life that God intended to my family (that I never had) then so be it… pink toenails may seem like no big deal but if it starts there where does it end? it is not what God intended for boys to be raised in that manner and for men to act the way many do in our culture
Report Post »crackerone
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 9:38pmWhat happened with Ronald Reagan Jr.?
Report Post »thermonator
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 9:27pmThe feminists just want to neuter the patriarchy.
Report Post »chips1
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 10:06pmWomen are just mad at urnals. It has nothing to do with…..SQUAT.
Report Post »RightPolitically
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 9:20pmThese leftist idiots want to turn the world upside down and when they do, WATCH YOUR REAR!
Report Post »TRONINTHEMORNING
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 9:08pmRight on, Keith. Enough of the gender dissolution. Just a bunch of libs being the wuss-minded freaks that they are.
Report Post »spirited
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 9:00pmRuffles, lace, perfume, wigs & hair bows, and makeup…, made quite an upper-class male splash over in merry ‘ole England, and the Louies France for quite a while. Plaid skirts and knee socks (all but forgotten –if not for Scotch tape) are still part of Prince Charles’ attire.
Fashion –be it trend, style or status, is ever-changing, reinvented and returning.
Tattoos and body piercing (why ???) has been the big deal for both genders of all ages.
While allowing youngsters ‘discovery’ is healthy and individual preferences, be it color or style should be allowed autonomy…,
>guidance is necessary & good.
Report Post »MylostRepublic
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 8:56pmWhat ever happened to “Diversity is Our Strength?” drivel.
Report Post »high school drop out
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 8:53pmIf the gender lines were meant to be blurred as these people suggest we would have all been born looking like “ken and Barbie” (anyone who’s ever undressed a one of theses dolls knows what I mean) Its the differences when we pair up that make us what we are. Each should compliment the other forming the union has served us for tens of thousands of years! No one group should be considered superior just different and these differnces should be embraced not ignored
Report Post »momprayn
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 8:44pmYeah, just more of the same old demonic efforts to pervert all things God created/commanded, etc. We’ve really come to the point where the Scriptures say that people will call “evil good” and “good evil” — try to reverse things of God – His purposes, plans, etc. I believe in the Old Testament there are warnings about not letting men wear women’s clothing and vice versa. I think He hasn’t changed in that He wants women to be feminine and men masculine (works best that way). Romans 1 tells us why and how homosexuality – sexual perversions started. Oh well – long, complex subject. I hope “revival” comes to America soon or we’re…..doomed.
Report Post »Youngin
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 10:10pmSo God created dresses and nail polish? Women shouldn’t wear pants?
Report Post »Gender roles are solely a product of culture, nothing more.
Islesfordian
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 10:39pmStupid idiocy is also a product of culture, a culture that has lost its mind.
Report Post »Youngin
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 3:56am“Stupid idiot” is a great argument.
Ancient Egyptian men and women alike wore makeup – including eye color, lip color, and yes, nail polish. They also wore earrings and skirts. It was perfectly normal for their culture, and was a status symbol. The anatomy God gave you has nothing to do with what you choose to wear or how you express yourself in general.
Lets say a modern boy gets bullied in school for wearing a purple and pink bracelet. Is the problem that the boy likes pretty colors, or that the bullies use that as a reason to hate him? Teaching your kids not to be bigots is more valuable then telling them what they should and should not like.
Report Post »Islesfordian
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 9:30amYoungin, the problem with your argument is that you imply that the historical variability of established gender idetifiers means that gender identifiers are irrelevant. If only men paint thier nails in South Botswnanstan and only women wear hats then it would be wrong to make a boy wear a hat or prevent him from painting his nail, but only in that culture.
In our culture painting nails is not masculine. But many traditional masculine traits are being abandoned and feminie identifiers being used by men not because the identifiers are shifting their meaning but because masculinity itself is being abandoned and gender confusion is being embraced. That is one thing that runs counter to EVERY other culture no matter WHAT gender indentifiers they use.
Report Post »Lloyd Drako
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 10:09amYoungin:
You do not need to go back to ancient Egypt to find a culture whose men violated our present gender norms. As recently as the 18th century, upper-class European men commonly wore rouge, lipstick and lots of powder, and often affected high-pitched, lisping speech.
Islesfordian:
Yes, there is a deliberate, ideologically driven effort afoot to blur gender distinctions. as well as to encourage males to develop their “feminine” side. It’s not simply a matter of fashion. But in the 19th century there was an effort to assert gender distinctions, with men adopting sober clothing and growing beards. This trend persisted into the 20th century, minus the facial hair, to the extent that today‘s man’s business suit is not much different from its equivelent 100 or 150 years ago.
Why is the 19th-century norm more normal than the 18th-century one?
Report Post »Islesfordian
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 12:11pm“Why is the 19th-century norm more normal than the 18th-century one?”
LLoyd, it’s not a question which norm is “more normal”. In every time there were different norms but they all asserted distinctions between men and women. The uses of rouge by men did not mean they ignored these distinctions, nor did they mimic distinctly feminine traits, They wore wigs then too, but the men‘s wigs were distinctive from women’s wigs.
Report Post »nomercy63
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 8:42pmIs there a point to this!!! You are who you are gay, straight, weirdo, you like pink, green, blue deal with it. We waste our time on ignorant issues like this and everything important we ignore. I will say just like they tell you in Kindergarten everyone keep their hands and comments to themselves.
Report Post »BOMUSTGO
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 11:29pmWhich straight parent do you inherit the gay gene from????
Report Post »tifosa
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 8:11amSeems that the party of “keep your hands off my guns” wants their hands all over my freedom of choice (who to marry, to an abortion…etc)
Report Post »SlimnRanger
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 8:41pmI have given up trying to understand this mixed up topsy turvy world anymore
Report Post »orlandojon
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 8:36pmLiberalism is about pushing boundries that are there for a reason…the outcome is never good. Superman fans will remember the “bizzaro” world where right is wrong and wrong is right. That’s where these lefist wackos should be living.
Report Post »walkwithme1966
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 9:05pmThere you go again – another TeaParty person using sweeping generalizations about all liberals. We are not all the same – when are you people going to realize that – use your brain and realize that not all liberals are the same!!! I knew a male friend of mine who played with dolls – he became an excellent pediatrician very renowned in his field. http://wp.me/pYLB7-X7
Report Post »unsalvageable.org
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 9:19pmThat’s interesting. You say that OlandoJon is lumping all the Libs together yet you ASSUME that he is a tea party member…typical Liberal hypocrite.
Report Post »http://www.unsalvageable.org
Therightsofbilly
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 12:13amwalkwithme1966 WROTE:
” There you go again – another TeaParty person using sweeping generalizations about all liberals. We are not all the same – when are you people going to realize that – use your brain and realize that not all liberals are the same!!! I knew a male friend of mine who played with dolls – he became an excellent pediatrician very renowned in his field.”
Yes, you are correct. You are very “different”
Funny how “all you liberals” always know somebody to use as a shining example of the point you are trying to make.
If “all you liberals” keep screwing up the economy, we will all be “OUT-STANDING IN OUR FIELD”
Report Post »tierrah
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 4:28am@unsalvageable: Bingo!!! Winning!!!!!
Report Post »13th Imam
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 9:38amWalk
Report Post »Some of you are male, some female , some trannys, some Bi , I could go on. What you all have in common is a disconnect with reality. All of you think you should live off others bounty, in varying ways.All of you hate Conservatives , for their stand on everyone being SELF RELIANT.
Melvin Spittle
Posted on May 9, 2011 at 1:12pmOnly humans can blur the obvious distinctions between genders, sexuality, etc to the point that you have nothing but confusion. Men have traits that are associated as being common to male masculinity and women with femininity. Blurring this distinction will result in a psychiatrists dream come true. The definition of a well adjusted male and female these days has never been more confusing if you were to believe this modern BS. Raising three boys and two girls has been a challenge when they are singled out in school as being outside the norm because they do not accept this blurring of genders and sexuality. The values that we have taught our children are considered intolerant with no room for debate. God help you if you challenge a professor in the UC California system!
Report Post »CrackerSmurf
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 8:32pmconfusion? boys become men. girls become women. what’s the problem? being a man doesn’t entail dresses and wands.
Report Post »CandaceGray25
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 8:25pmI will raise my son a man! And my daughter as a woman! There will be no confusion here!
Report Post »Restored One
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 9:31pmWho painted this kids toe nails? Not him, if so the ad would have shown carpet with polish all over it. That would be experimenting. And the sponsor would have been a carpet cleaning service. Yes, kids experiment. Regardless of male or female. But most parents will try and explain the differences. If you find your son shaving his legs at 9 yrs, maybe he is spending too much time with his Mom. If you find your daughter trying to shave her face, maybe she is spending too much time with her Dad. As parents you have set examples.
Report Post »HowardBeale1
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 10:44pmWhoooooo, THIS makes me BEYOND PISSED! You people out here better PROTECT your kids from these CRAZY A**, SCREWED-UP “adults”. They F-ed up their own lives and now they want the kids. My son is 20 and he is a REAL man! When he was a little guy and the schools wanted to ratchet down his NATURAL rambunctiousness and energy, I said “HELL TO THE NO!” They wanted him on some kind of drug like Ritalin or some crap like that. I said “I wish somebody from that school would step to my kid to try and do something to him…they WILL have to take me to jail, because somebody WILL catch hell behind messing with my child!”
YOU have been WARNED. Ya’ll better watch your kids, ESPECIALLY your boys! Between the nasty a** child molesters in the schools and CHURCHES and these so-called “women” out here wanting to FEMINIZE these male children, the future of our babies is IN JEOPARDY.
Pink Floyd was RIGHT…LEAVE THEM KIDS ALONE!!
Report Post »chips1
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 8:23pmThere won‘t be anyone left to capture or kill the terrorist that takes OBL’s place. PMS squad?
Report Post »BOMUSTGO
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 11:25pmI bet none of the members of “Seal team 6” had pink toenails! Osama was shot with a nail polish brush in his hand.
Report Post »jeffyfreezone
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 8:18pmThere are differences in males and females. I think we should embrace this differences.
Report Post »Grandmadar
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 8:24pmYes, I agree. This is why we are different and to rejoice in our differences. Be pretty boring if we were all alike!
Report Post »As a side note, does anyone know how a person “ unsigns up” for the Blaze. I see no where a person can does this if he/she so chooses. Would appreciate any advice on this.
redneck
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 8:27pmSome fellows look real cute in pink
Report Post »Steverino
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 8:35pmJeffy-
I could not agree more. Boys and girls, and for that matter, all children, are “wired” differently. PERIOD. I have two sons and a daughter. The oldest is a math wizard – not uncommon for boys. My daughter (middle) is also strong with numbers. The youngest? Can barely use math to get out of a paper bag. But, he can write like you can’t believe. He loved the “classics”, from the time he was 14.
Here’s a concept:
Support your children in their endeavors. Encourage them to find themselves, with guidance. Don’t ram YOUR concepts down their throats. Whether “MALE” or “FEMALE”.
I can’t tell you how many hours I spent with the young buck and math flash cards. He’ll clearly never be an engineer like his older brother. Inline hockey – HOME RUN.
Kids are kids, and they are all ( highly challenging…) gifts from God.
Peace,
Steve
Pink TOE nail polish for a boy? Sorry. I think not.
Report Post »Steverino
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 8:43pmTo clarify – pink nail polish in general. Maybe black. Maybe.
Report Post »Steve
Showtime
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 9:18pmI’m female. I surely don’t want to get attached to somebody and find out “things are not as I thought.”
Report Post »Dustyluv
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 9:19pmMy mother treated me as a boy, she treated my brother as a girl, because she wanted a girl and did not get one…He’s now a 50 year old gay man. You are a product of your enviroment. Pink toenails now equals to a screwed up brain. I have seen it first hand.
Yes…I love my brother even though hes gay, but I sure wish it was different.
Report Post »GBMBulletsSKNRD
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 9:30pmI did not even read the full artical. Why you might ask? Go ahead and ask. If you don’t know the answer by now well bluntly, you are a dope.
Report Post »Finch88
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 9:40pmThe differences do matter.
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Report Post »HappyStretchedThin
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 9:44pmI’ll take truth from wherever it comes, so thanks for sticking up for gender differences, Dr. Ablow. and I love the work you’ve done with Glenn.
Report Post »But your latest Fox column on the dissolution of marriage is full of fallacy, and blows almost all of your credibility with me.
Disgraceful opinion here: http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2011/05/06/dr-keith-ablow-cameron-diaz-right-4-reasons-marriage-dying-institution/?test=faces
Rearden Steel
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 10:04pmThe sissifying of America.
Report Post »woodyb
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 10:25pm@ GRANDMADAR –
I might ne wrong, but I think all that is necessary to ‘unsignup’ as you put it, is to remove the bookmark from your browser page.
I have been thinking of doing the same thing — all I think I have to do is quit visiting their web site!!!
Report Post »D0ntTread0nMe
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 10:28pmWhen did we start to believe that everyone is exactly the same, and girls can do everything boys can do? The progressive revolution of the 60′s…. in my humble opinion this is just another unseen consequence of doing things just cause they make you “feel” good.
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banjarmon
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 10:51pmWas/is this Howard Dean’s problem?? pink toe nails!!!
Report Post »MontanaRob
Posted on May 7, 2011 at 11:23pm“Kids explore, sample, test and learn,” she wrote in a Psychology Today blog. “They should have the freedom to do this and the strength to grow into interesting human beings.”
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If interesting means degenerate, dysfunctional, deluded or just plain psychotic, then yeah, I guess they would be interesting. Kind of like the freak show at the circus is interesting.
Sinista MACE
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 12:31amCommunist Goals (1963)
26. Present homosexuality, degeneracy and promiscuity as “normal, natural, healthy.”
Report Post »See through it
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 12:57amWho is defending God’s word? Didn’t he say man should act like man and woman should act like a woman.
Also, why is it that, David Barton is, the only person in the United States who has enough guts and brains to stand up against the government’s demoralization of the schools and public buildings. The government has unconstitutionally taken God’s word From these places.
Where has the richest church in world, the Vatican, been? While America is allowed to morally decay. The Vatican has the best lawyers in the world and they cannot use their stolen gold to defend the People of the United States, Mexico, Spain, Italy, from the moral corruption of these governments.
Vatican, look at what you should be like, look at David Barton. Fight for God.
Report Post »A Doctors Labor Is Not My Right
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 1:59amGender roles aren’t polarizing – they’re affirming.
If anyone who’s gay wants to argue this point with me, I’d be happy to engage in a thoughtful dialogue.
Report Post »GETLIFE
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 5:13amDOCTORS LABOR, I like your vocabulary. Recognizing and affirming gender differences can be quite empowering to the individual. The “polarizing” vocabulary reminds me of the PC and divisive “racist” vocabulary–get people into polarized groups– then they can be manipulated.
Report Post »waggie
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 7:17amAnother example of how we don’t know what we believe in in this country. We don’t even know who we are or what gender we should be! My gosh, what have we turned into? God help us turn back to Him!
Report Post »tifosa
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 7:57amStunning that Ablow has a stage for this, but no surprise that Fox is the forum. He doesn’t cite one study, because he can’t. Studies show exactly the opposite, that transgender is not a “choice,” (ie. because toenails are painted pink~) http://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMoa022236?hits=20&andorexactfulltext=and&FIRSTINDEX=0&fyear=1994&searchid=1081207688152_68&journalcode=nejm&author1=reiner%2C+w&author2=gearhart%2C+j&excludeflag=TWEEK_element&tmonth=Apr&searchtitle=Authors&tyear=2004&sendit=GO&sortspec=Score+desc+PUBDATE_SORTDATE+desc&fmonth=Apr&search_tab=authors&andorexacttitleabs=and He does a disservice which forwards backwards thinking.
Report Post »militiaman
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 8:31amYes, there are without doubt differences in males and females. But anybody who has the time to pursue such silliness by trying to flim flam people into believing otherwise is someone who has been pampered for so long he/she has lost sight of what is truly important in life. Contrast such behavior with days of old when there was no time for such diversions, because growing and gathering food and building and maintaining necessities constituted so much time it wasn’t possible to get off on a mindless tangent……….. if a person wanted to survive.
The best thing these types could do is pay attention to what is really important, because they could well be back in the hard survival days of yesteryear in a few scant years….or even less.
This country is debating whether or not pink nail polish is a good thing or not, and it is in the throes of losing its role as an empire. and could well collapse economically, then socially, in the very near future.
Report Post »old white guy
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 8:42amcalling hard wired genetic differences sterotypes is a little silly.
Report Post »Professional Infidel
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 8:44amLook in your underware!! No pink for my boys!! Unless it’s wrapped around there penis.
Report Post »one yrs. food ration like Glenn says..
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 8:47amYes,and cross dressing would constitute and very “ interesting human being ” I agree …. And they wonder why Boys today are little wimps..
Hey bud got a light ?
Report Post »13th Imam
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 9:31amWonder if Perfesser Lyons stands up when she pees?
Report Post »Citizen
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 9:49amMy favorite was that her 2 young kids are “dissapointed with gender specific birthdays”.
Ignorant Lady doesnt even realize those kids could not care less about gender specific birthdays unless you planted it in there head.
I have never heard of a 5 year old ever complain – oh this birthday party is too gender specific.
Bad trees put forth bad fruit. Enjoy.
Report Post »Sinista MACE
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 10:08amIt’s funny that the Blaze censors “g-o-n-a-d-s”, but not “penis”…
Report Post »black9897
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 10:25amWhen I was real young I used to put on my moms pantie hose, just cuz they were soft. I’m a 21 year old straight male who is just fine. We do need to keep boys boys and girls girls, but when kids are real young they’ll do stuff like that. Be careful but don’t freak out.
Report Post »A Doctors Labor Is Not My Right
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 1:23pm@tifosa,
“Studies show exactly the opposite, that transgender is not a “choice,” (ie. because toenails are painted pink~)”
First, having read the full article, I notice that the study you cite admits that it is inconclusive, at best.
Second, take a look at this unfortunate evaluation:
“Identifying herself as a female at the initial assessment at the age of 10 years, Subject 6 subsequently angrily refused to discuss her sexual identity with anyone after learning, at the age of 12, that her birth status was male. After 2 1/2 years of suggestions from her physician, she recently began taking estrogen but continues to refuse to discuss sex.”
The confused parents who opted their child into this program have scarred this young man for life.
Third, I’d like to know where they get their idea of male/female identity which they use to compare their results. Because it seems to me that if they get it from society, then it renders the study moot at the outset since they have already acquiesced to the notion that there IS such a thing as gender identity.
I suspect that the study was simply contrived to see how much they could screw with the Subjects to get them to diverge from their gender identities; A truly unbiased study of gender identity would have an observation area in which only the Subjects could enter, and allowing nature to take its course.
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Report Post »A Doctors Labor Is Not My Right
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 1:24pm… (Continued from prior post)
Fourth, the fact that the majority of gay people TRY to act like the opposite sex (deliberately raising the pitch of their voices, etc.) proves that even they know that there is such a thing as gender identity.
And finally, I’d like to refer a study which, like point Four above, actually makes the case that the very manner in which homosexuality is expressed reveals an adherence to the heterosexual gender identity worldview – for example, a dude trying to act like a woman is not like a woman acting like a woman, and that helps to show that the homosexual is lying to him/herself.
Here is the study.
The Meaning of Same-Sex Attraction
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tifosa
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 4:23pmA DOCTORS,… NARTH misuses, distorts “data” to draw conclusions for political/religious(?) reasons. In fact, their sites are “flagged” as virus-ridden. “Dr.” Nicolosi, who gets all “squirmishy” or just up-and-leaves under the light of attention/scrutiny, often doesn’t answer questions about his work or so-called “results/conversions,” as on Hannity. Psychoanalysis has given way to alternatives like cognitive-behavioral therapy in part BECAUSE of what shaymen like him can do to distort a person’s psyche.
Report Post »A Doctors Labor Is Not My Right
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 7:06pm@tifosa,
Please tell me you at least read the article.
“A DOCTORS,… NARTH misuses, distorts “data” to draw conclusions for political/religious(?) reasons. In fact, their sites are “flagged” as virus-ridden.”
Non sequitur (Not that I’ve noticed any vituses – I haven’t).
And it’s not like the writing is of poor quality; I mean, even if you believe they’re misleading others, you have to admit they at least come across as invested in their lies, such that it is unlikely that they would put viruses on their own site.
Perhaps the viruses of which you speak are introduced from outside the organization?
““Dr.” Nicolosi, who gets all “squirmishy” or just up-and-leaves under the light of attention/scrutiny, often doesn’t answer questions about his work or so-called “results/conversions,” as on Hannity.”
I can’t find the Hannity interview. If you could provide a link, that would help me, thanks.
I did see the CNN interview, though. Nicolosi’s so-called “temper tantrum” can be chalked up to frustration with being misrepresented by the main-stream media – I’ve seen a lot of that. And as someone who has been misrepresented, I can relate.
They did technically get him on the whole “artistic” issue, but I‘m pretty sure he wasn’t saying that dudes can’t be artistic – which I think is the point he was trying to make.
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Report Post »A Doctors Labor Is Not My Right
Posted on May 8, 2011 at 7:22pm@tifosa,
(… Continued.)
“Psychoanalysis has given way to alternatives like cognitive-behavioral therapy in part BECAUSE of what shaymen like him can do to distort a person’s psyche.”
As I understand it (correct me, otherwise), CBT focuses on the symptoms, rather than the cause.
As such, I would think CBT has a much more potentially negative effect on a person‘s psyche because it doesn’t even try to solve anything. It’s a band-aid – that’s it.
Furthermore, the preference for CBT would seem to confirm Nicolosi’s view that homosexuality IS a choice, since, again, CBT deals with behaviors/symptoms, rather than their causes (Not that I think they’re actually attempting to use CBT to change sexual orientation – but my conclusion would follow logically from the nature of the method).
Now, there is psychoanalysis out there that can mess with a person’s psyche, but that kind is actually based on the same deterministic paradigm as CBT (which permeates much of what is called Science).
Report Post »Melvin Spittle
Posted on May 9, 2011 at 1:39pm@tifosa
That can hardly be an example of a definitive study with such a small sample. From the example you gave, you attempt to qualify your position with this? Where is your proof to support your statement that he is a “backwards” thinker? Try again. The nature vs. nurture argument is far from being decided. The supposed “Gay Gene” discovery is still not definitive nor is the study statistically significant.
The use of peer-reviewed studies does everyone a disservice if you are deliberately sticking your head in the sand when drawing conclusions regarding the significance and scope.
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