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Study: Adult Children Living With Their ‘Rents Causes Prolonged Familial Conflict

Kicking your kids out of the nest may be what’s best for your family dynamics. A recent study showed that households with young adults age 18 to 24 living with their parents is causing prolonged familial conflict.

The review was conducted in Spain where adults move out of the house later than their northern Europe and United States counterparts. What Beatriz Rodríguez, researcher from the University of La Laguna and co-author of the study found, according to Science Daily, is that domestic disputes in these households were more prevalent:

Conflicts during adolescence reach a peak at the start of this period, they decrease during the mid-teens, and increase again in the late teens,” Rodríguez pointed out. [...]

“There is dissociation between what mothers and fathers expect of their children in this evolutionary stage and what the emerging adults expect of themselves. In addition, there is a divide between social values and their personal expectations,” the study reports.

Just the fact that following videos exist alludes to the prevalence of adult-child versus parent conflict:

Although these findings may seem intuitive, it further makes the case for why the natural order involves young adults moving out of the house between the ages of 18 and 24 — and not moving back in. Even in the countries in the study that are considered to have youths moving out faster, like the United States and Britain, the number of adult children living with their parents is increasing.

Increased joblessness and difficulty in buying a home has more and more of these adults continuing to live with parents after high school or coming home after college, which is called the boomerang effect. According to the U.S. Bureau of the Census in 2005, 46 percent of the 18 to 24 age group were living at home; 8 percent age 25-34 were still living with their parents.

According to “What’s Going on With Young People Today?” — research published in 2010 by Richard Settersten of Oregon State University and Barbara Ray, president of Hired Pen, Inc. — says this may not be as abnormal as we think.

Science Daily has more:

The middle of the last century is often used as a comparison for judging young people today. But Settersten and Ray reveal that that the baby boom generation is an anomaly. Young people in the early decades of the 1900s were slow to leave their family homes and start families. Becoming an adult then, as now, was a gradual process characterized by “semi-autonomy,” with young people waiting until they were self-sufficient to set up their own households, marry and have children.

Some interesting facts from their research include the following:

  • Even before the recession, three in 10 white men from 18 to 34 were living at home.
  • Men with a high school and even college degrees are not getting as high paying of jobs as their counterparts in the 1960s and 70s.
  • In 2004, more than 20 percent of men in their 30s were below the poverty level, compared to only 10 percent in 1969.

According to the British Office of National Statistics in 2009, one in three “adult-kids” were still living at home because they could not afford to buy or rent, while a portion also said they were staying at home by choice. The Guardian has more:

In the past, British children have tended to leave home earlier than their European cousins but the latest ONS figures, published today, show that 25% of men aged 25 to 29 now live with their parents. This is almost double the proportion of women in their late 20s (13%) who still live at home. [...]

The lack of jobs is being compounded by changes in the housing market. Even those in work cannot afford to move out of the family home as first-time buyers now face house prices that are, on average, five times average incomes, compared with a multiple of three times 20 years ago.

But they add that these factors only partly explain why people are also postponing forming families and perhaps marriage.

“It is also a reflection of the changing roles of men and women and changing expectations of normative ages for partnership and family formation,” say the authors. “It is unclear the extent to which remaining in (or returning to) the parental home is an outcome of choice rather than constraint for these ‘emerging adults’.”

One can only imagine what the family dynamic would be with this older age group.

Comments (136)

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  • Jaracing2
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 12:14pm

    This is sad, very sad. I love my kids but there comes a time the birds get kicked out of the nest. It’s called growing up and being a responsable for yourself. Many non-slugs have done it and done well. If your a slug and need somewhere to stay the Military is taking people ,they use to have away of removing the slug from the brains of people.

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    • rangerp
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 1:59pm

      after high school graduation, my brothers and I all got a free ride to the bus station. Uncle Sam furnished the rest of the ride. The trip hit final destination at good old Fort Benning Georgia, for basic training, Infantry Training, Airborne School, Ranger Indoctrination Program, on to Ranger Regiment, then to Ranger School. Later was the Sniper Course, Pathfinder, PLDC, ROTC Green to Gold, Infantry Officer Basic Course, Infantry Mortar Leader Course, Jumpmaster, Infantry Officer Advanced Course, Instructor trainer Course, Combatives Skill Level One Two and Three, Combined Arms Staff School, Graduate School at UGA, MiTT Advisor Course, and Command and General Staff College.

      I think old Pops got his moneys worth out of that ride to the bus station.

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    • YepImaConservative
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 2:18pm

      As a former Army Recruiter, I guess it depends on what your definition of “slug” is JARACING2. I have my own definition of “slugs” and most of them were not qualified to enter the Military.

      They were however probably more qualified to be your average College Professor at any Liberal Arts College.

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    • YepImaConservative
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 2:25pm

      “ALL THE WAY” RANGER! Ahhhh, memories of Ft Benning.

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    • ComeAndTakeThis
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 2:29pm

      I just sent a 37 year old ont into the world. He returned a year and a half ago. I tried to get him to join the military but he failed to get in. Then I got him a job with a friend as a trainee mechanic. He worked there for one year and managed to spend all of his income. I then told him that all of his pay would go to me and I would set up a savings acct. He managed to save 2 grand then decided it was unfair to get free room and board. So he took some of his pay thinking I would not find out. The shop owner informed me of his lie. I sent him packing 2 months ago.There is now peace in our house. I hope he makes a man of himself. I set him up with a set envelopes each one denoting the amount of pay per week needed to meet his bills. He has no one but himself to blame if he fails to meet his obligations.

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    • Airb0rne4325
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 3:14pm

      Article states “Many can’t find jobs or homes”, there is a home out there for you. It’s called the “Barracks”. These kids now a days are coddle so much. Zoned out on the couch playing Xbox, Wii, PSP, Facebook, Twitter, etc. Get a job and get out. Need a place to stay while in school, I can go along with that, but it better be a degree you can get work with.

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    • Meyvn
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 4:33pm

      Fact is we’re all fkd up and need a swift attitude adjustment. I think a few are on their way.

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    • Ditto Head
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 8:46pm

      @ComeAndTakeThis

      Maybe if you’d spent more time teaching him responsibility and less time being paranoid about the government wanting to take away your guns, he would have been a great success by now. You’re the kind of nutjob that has many people distancing themselves from Beck these days. I’ll let you in on something: If “they” want to take your guns away, they will. But you‘re obvious paranoid obsession with keeping them make you seem like the kind of person that maybe shouldn’t be allowed to own or possess firearms. Just sayin’…..

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    • Pigpen
      Posted on September 6, 2011 at 12:45am

      Well, let’s see, this was a “study” so either a government or a foundation paid a PhD to do the “study”. Now a PhD won’t get out of bed for less than a base salary of $75k, and I am certain that a “study” of this caliber would charge nothing less than $250k. So I don’t know who the h3LL Christina Newberry at http://www.adultchildrenlivingathome.com is or who Beatriz Rodríguez at the University of La Laguna is, but if I had to bet, I would bet that if an audit were to be done, that the Government of the United States of America was somehow ultimately the one who paid for such a study into what is so UNBELIEVABLY axiomatic that even us dummy hoi polloi KNOW that: Yes, Christina, when adult children continue to live with their parents, it DOES cause “prolonged familial conflict”.

      Well no sh!1. I already knew that, not by experience, but by virtue of the fact that I am not in a coma. Do I get an honorary PhD from the University of La Laguna? Do I get a cushy job at http://www.adultchildrenlivingathome.com helping self-absorbed, upper-middle class families “resolve” this “conflict” created by the bad economy? No? I guess I will just have to keep working for a living. D@ng, I would have gone ahead and gotten my PhD if I had known then that it is all just a big racket.

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    • loriann12
      Posted on September 6, 2011 at 6:20am

      @rangerp

      When I joined the Navy, my dad said, “Can you take your brother?” I made the mistake of living with my in-laws as a 40-something adult, and they kept treating him like he was 12.

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    • platitude
      Posted on September 6, 2011 at 1:13pm

      Ranger indoctrination program? ha ha, wow they are not even discreet about the fact.

      Yea I guess old pops got his moneys worth, and the result is a dutiful, sycophantic, unadulterated meathead.

      Fall in line, do what ever your superiors tell you, obey without question, and they will praise you with briskness.

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    • smithclar3nc3
      Posted on September 6, 2011 at 3:42pm

      Hey dittohead I bet you dollars for dimes that a much larger percentage conservative raised children leave home after school than their liberal counter parts. I know for a fact that my more liberal friends left home at a much later age than my freinds that cling to their bible and guns as the POSPOTUS put it. He77 I‘ve got one liberal friend that at the tender age of 42 still hasn’t left the nest. His favorite comedian is Bill Maher go figure.

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  • hauschild
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 12:10pm

    A study was needed to validate the obvious?

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    • Ditto Head
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 8:35pm

      The 2009 Recovery/Reinvestment Act would have been more acurrately named “The 2009 Researchers-Who-Research-that-Which-Needs-No-Research Bonanza”

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  • angelcat
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 12:01pm

    In many, but not all cases, helicopter parents have raised their children to expect their parents to do and provide everything for them and not to be able to stand to be deprived of any luxury they desire. They would never think about using their salaries for an apartment if it meant no cable TV, no iphone, no laptop, etc. I do realize, though, that the Obama economy is making it necessary for even some of the most responsible adult children to move home. Sadly, many of those same adult children voted for Obama and are suffering the consequences of their bad decisions. Worse yet, many will vote for him again.

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  • Nanner-SW
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 12:01pm

    Yeah, a post I have direct involvement in. I am a 22 year old still living at Daddy’s house. If you do the figures, you can guess I just got back from college with a four year degree. My Dad works off and lives at his house one or two weekends out of the month. I work and pay for the electricity, phone, internet, my vehicle, and groceries; still less than if I had to pay my own rent at an apartment. Being my frugal self, I am saving about $1000 a month in hopes of paying 10% down on my own place. Up to $4000, woot, wish me luck world. (Have my eye on this pretty little house on a lot of land). Ohh and there are no family conflicts but if I didn’t contribute as I do or have a concrete plan, my Dad would have kicked me out by now.

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    • jb.kibs
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 12:32pm

      you are not “these kids” bro. you pay. you buy your food, electricity, groceries, etc…

      they are talking about the kids that live at home, free of rent, free groceries, free electric, etc… why WOULD they ever move? what incentives? they don’t even have rules to follow half of the time.
      … it comes down to responsibility… they have 0.

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    • Gary Fishaholic
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 12:35pm

      Sounds like a good plan if all the kids that had to move back home had a similar plan we probably wouldn’t even be talking about this. The problem comes from the ones still waiting for somebody to give them something because they think we owe them. I don’t see any problem with giving your kids a helping hand to get started. As long as they are relying on you for everything. Right or wrong I have let my kids move back in on several occasion‘s but they have always managed to get back on their own after a few month’s. Their Mom makes sure they don’t get to comfortable.

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    • Rayblue
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 1:58pm

      The oldest daughter was the only one to return after her divorce devastated her. She stayed one year and I helped her get adjusted again.
      None of the other kids would return on a bet. We made it so miserable for them with all our rules and regulations they would have lived in a cardboard box rather than return home.
      They all were wise enough to choose fields that would be safe and in demand even though they were boring and without glamour. Engineering, Biology and computer science. I hope you chose and received a degree in something that will hopefully be in demand. Good luck graduate.
      And I mean that.

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    • searching for the Truth
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 2:50pm

      Way to go young man. Won’t wish you luck- no such thing, but I’ll wish that God go with you if, and only if, you have Him in your plan.

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    • searching for the Truth
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 2:53pm

      By the way, It’s called intimidation. In the end times, it is written parents will do the eating.

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    • searching for the Truth
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 3:03pm

      She’ll find someone Ray- Gonna have to ask God to provide, I believe you already have – where is this rhyming coming from?

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    • David Foxfire
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 5:25pm

      You’re the exception of the rule, and you need not feel that you’re being lumped into the man-and-woman-children that some of us rail against. Personally, I think that the Baby Boomers have it easy, in the 50s and 60s, to acquire a well-paying career that pays enough for a home on their own. The vast majority of them were raised with some degree of responsibility to go along with the need to just distance themselves from their parents and their ways of life. Even the groups that got the irresponsible label, like the Hippies, had enough sense to have their own pad to crash in.

      Nowadays the children of today–especially the teenagers and young adults–are pretty deprived. On top of the reasons listed here (like helicopter parenting, the influence of the internet, lack of jobs in economy, et al) I’d like to put in a factor that I had to deal with myself; the sense–even if I alone sensed it–that I have no talents or skills that people would want and that I have no place in the world. This idea that there is nothing out there for them even if they look and they‘d be more productive getting to Level 70 in WOW really doesn’t encourage them to get out of the house that much.

      BTW, I write books and publish them online at http://foxfirestudios.net . Proceeds of the sales of this book go into helping me get out of any kind of dependency, Parental, Government, and Otherwise.

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    • mikelabass
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 6:04pm

      You are definitely the exception to the rule, Nanner-SW, and coming from this home-owner and 50-something who did pretty much the same thing as you, I am very proud of you. You will be well-prepared for life and can pass your good habits on to your future family.

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    • Lucy Larue
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 8:47pm

      NANNER,
      Good Luck!
      You really do not seem to be a member of the entitlement bunch.
      Yes, you’re lucky to be where you are. You can save money,yadda,yadda. But you’re contributing and you recognize your good fortune.

      It’s just that so much has changed in so little time. When I left home, X number of years ago, I would have lived in my car, in a shelter,or on the freaking streets before I would have slunk back home to my parents.

      Nowadays the “ENTITLEMENT” generation has come back home and are actually making demands on their parents and contributing NOTHING!
      And sadly…,they DID vote for “HOPE and CHANGE”.

      Oh yeah..,I forgot. They are also ANTI WAR. They are FOR protecting the environment…,and they get really pissed off when their Moms go grocery shopping and forget the cheese doodles and the Kaschi cereal.

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    • jkendal
      Posted on September 6, 2011 at 2:06pm

      @Nanner-SW – sounds like you have your head screwed on straight. Your parents obviously loved you enough to teach you responsibility and the value of money and hard work. I‘m sure they’re proud.

      You’ll find a job in your field eventually; just don’t give up. When we kick the stupid leftists out next November, things will improve almost immediately! Hope you don’t have to wait until then, though.

      Good luck!

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    • John Meyer
      Posted on September 6, 2011 at 9:10pm

      Sounds like a pretty good plan, the only bit of advice I can offer as a 30 something is that if there aren’t any problems occurring, and your dad isn’t trying to kick you out, save up quite a bit more than your 10%… I’d recommend 100%…

      Right now you have the freedom to not be tied to anything you don’t want to be, if you don’t like something about your current environment you can up and leave. Once you have taken on the yoke of debt to buy a house, especially in this economy, you’re stuck. But if you own your house you can take whatever job you want with minimal expenses. Rather than being $1,000 a month you put towards the house, with like $600 going to interest, it will be $1,000 in expendable income.

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  • elizzyj1
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:57am

    This is nuts. Our kids know that they will NOT be moving back to mooch after college. I don’t think it would even cross their minds, honestly. One issue that seems prevalent in the young society is credit card debt. If we teach our kids how to be responsible, they won‘t dig themselves into a hole that they can’t get out of. That, of course, begins with US not getting ourselves into a hole we can’t get out of.

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  • loveliberty83
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:50am

    i hate these so called college researcher making ev1 feel guilty- My divorced daughter with two young children live with me -she works -she is not on welfare or food stamps- yes I help I her that is what family is about- we have too many young people doing drugs on welfare. It is not the Government job it is the family’s job

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    • Fuddy-duddy
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 12:14pm

      Your daughter is very blessed to have you as her parent. I agree that is what family is about. I am there now for my kids as I will expect them to be there for me when I am old, lonely, and vulnerable. My children know their father and I will be there for them until we will need them to be there for us.

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    • jb.kibs
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 12:33pm

      your child, any child, who HELPS with rent, electricity, groceries, etc… are NOT the children they are talking about… the kids they are talking about have 0 responsibility.

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  • Texas woman56
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:39am

    Also, young adults are getting married when they are older. I think this is a positive sign maybe they will not go through 2 divorces before they are mature enought to make a marriage work.

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  • Mateytwo Barreett
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:35am

    The solution has been arond for almost 50 years. Besides, you’ll make parents so proud!

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  • mikenleeds
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:34am

    if your adult child is living in your home you may have raising worthless lazy bums and they need threw in the street

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    • ShyLow
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:45am

      Stop the bail-outs and subsidising housing,so the free markets can set a fair price for rent and the price of a home

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    • ShyLow
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 2:30pm

      Why not buy your kid a house or condo on the beach…would be cheaper than sending them to be indocturinated in college,and you wouldn’t have them moving back home…I know…makes too much sence…keep giving your life savings to marxist indocturination centers…dumb a$$e$

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  • Constructionist
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:34am

    This is more of a ‘parents issue’ than a ‘children issue’. If your children are still living with you after college, its because you raised them to have no expectations of self-sufficiency. Although economic conditions doubtlessly play a role in this phenomenon, so does the nanny-state mentality with which the young have been inculcated. My children knew that I was footing the bill for four years of college, and after that, I looked forward to visiting with them at Thanksgiving and Christmas.

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    • SgtB
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:43am

      you footed the bill for 4 years of college? That was little overboard don’t you think. It costs about 5,000 a semester and you paid for eight of them? My parents definately weren’t paying for that and I knew it.

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    • JLGunner
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 12:39pm

      This is exactly what our American culture use to look like. Now everyone acts like they are from a third world island in the caribbean. Multiple families living under one roof, having your immigrant grandparents gain citizenship and getting on social security to help fund the household. It was always an expectation that when you graduate high school, you move on to college or get a job and get out on your own. The only time you went back to your parents was to celebrate Christmas or Thanksgiving. Remember when Michelle Obama said “Barack will never let you go back to lives you use to live” (or something cloe to that). I miss my country.

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    • vishus
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 12:59pm

      $5,000 for a semester of college? Seriously? My son is at a (private) school and the tuition, room, board, books, etc., is around $42,000 per year…times 4 years.

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    • zymogene
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 1:16pm

      I remember 18 and HS graduation was your exit date. I got my bed and dresser, bicycle, and basic items, Dad helped pack up the little U-Haul and he handed me a penny, saying it was the last I’d get from him. Not nastily, but a shove out of the nest. I never thought it was their job to make sure I had a new car or pay for college etc…I was surprised I got my bed etc. But back then I could get an apt. with a roommate etc. and survive. Now it certainly wasn’t the last penny he ever gave me, and they had helped through their life, and even moved back home once…but it was their home and their rules and not for free. It’s the attitude of entitlement…heck now they have grandparents being the one to start funding their grand kids college….which is fine if you can…but comes a time for personal responsibility. My parents were really gifted in when to help and when to let me pay the consequences for my own bad decisions.

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  • TH30PH1LUS
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:34am

    PROBLEM: American society & human biology are quickly reaching a crisis of separation. Ancient societies (though less materially prosperous, and less “free”) were more in tume with human biology in that people were married soon after they were reproductively viable. In other words, by the time people were 13-16 years old, they were considered “adults” and expected to take on ALL the responsibilities as such. Working, marriage, homesteading, etc. It’s also true that extended families were much more common, and a greater resource for emotional support and survival.

    TODAY, we’ve extended adolecense up to the bring of 30 years old. We’ve delayed marriage and childbearing until it become risky and sometimes dangerous. We’ve extended the education process for decades.

    The human body just wasn‘t built for the society we’ve created. And, as the article shows – it’s bad for family relationships.

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    • TH30PH1LUS
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:45am

      sorry about the spelling errors: I meant “tune” instead of “tume” and “brink” instead of “bring”.

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  • Gabbie
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:32am

    The reason kids do not want to live on their own, is they cannot afford the 150.00 cable bill, the 150.00 cell bill, the 400.00 car payment for their new latest car, the 200 dollar dinners on the weekend. Ski trips to Vermont, I could go on and on. I know parents who let their 26 year old adults live in their basement so they can have a 50 inch TV. Watch out parents, these are the kids that are going to pull the plug on you you so they can stay in our home. I lives is a studio with a black and white 13 in tv and worked a crap job until I found a better one. We know have our house paid off, cars paid off, no credit card debt. We worked for what we have and our child asked if she could move back home at with 3 kids at 35 and if we could take care of them. and we told her no, She found a way. Amazing. Called tough love. She understands and is better off for it.

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    • zymogene
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 1:32pm

      Heck there are ones (parents) who’s “adult children” have taken over the home! “I’m an adult, I can have the gang come over for a party”….”Ya mom, dad, my bud needs a place to say so he’ll be bunking with me.” Honest to God, I have a wonderful neighbor, but she and her husband live in their travel trailer at a camp ground (weather permitting) and come “home” to pay the bills, mow the lawn, do laundry, and stock up the fridge for their son. She goes and “visits family” when it‘s winter because it’s nothing but a frat house, but Dad wants to keep being a “friend and good buddy” and goes along with his son. He’s their only child and neither of them came from a good family and just want everything to be different for him. So far it doesn’t seem to be working for anyone but the kid. lol

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  • BigdaddyK
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:32am

    Left my folks house at 18.
    My daughter left my home at 18.
    At 23, my stepdaughter is still at home.
    The above article is spot on.

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  • 82dAirborne
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:25am

    Hey Blaze – Do you guys proof-read your headlines??

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  • WhiteFang
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:21am

    This family situation did not exist when I turned 18 in 1962. By that time I was totally independent of my parents. That’s just the way it was back then. Today…….it is just sad to see what has happened to our society.

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    • Mateytwo Barreett
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:50am

      Think back about how much different things were! My God! It costs me more to fill my pickup with gas than my first two cars- combined!

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    • zymogene
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 1:44pm

      Your other poster nailed it for me. Everything is so much more expensive to the point where it takes 2 adults to work to pay for what one used to be to make it on. I had room-mates, but was able to be on my own and pay my portion of rent, utilities, food. etc and pay my tuition and such for college. No way to do that now!

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  • Dougral Supports Israel
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:13am

    I think the conflict is caused by the adult “children” not assuming adult roles and attitudes, they feel that they are still entitled to free stuff from their parents. I believe that parents need to make clear that if their adult child is going to stay at home then they will have to help shoulder the load both financially and with the chores. If they don’t like it then hit the road.

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    • SlimnRanger
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:25am

      Yep ,your so right, i have 2 nephews still living with their parents they are 21 and 22,they both do work but do not help their parents by paying any rent or buying any groceries,but my sis and her husband will not make them help out

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    • Baxie
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:57am

      I am embarrassed to say that our 30 year old son moved out shortly before his 30th birthday. He has a Master’s degree in education and is teaching High School English. I think the time goes by so fast and all of sudden, well, he’s still home. He taught English in China for a year and returned “home” after that ended. We had a lot of conflict. It is hard to turn off the parenting role. I was still on him about the messy room and such. I feel like he resents both his and me for setting him free. We both had surgery this Summer and could have used some help. It felt like we were imposing on him if we asked for a little help. I’m just backing off now, maybe he’ll see we love him and did the best we could.

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    • Gamaliel
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 12:05pm

      It IS truly amazing what “kids” think their parents owe them these days. Even when they have their own kids they continue with this ridiculous sense of entitlement while at the same time ignoring what they legitimately owe their own small children.

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    • zymogene
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 2:11pm

      Also think it’s this new society that has pushed and ingrained “children’s rights” ( as if they were on the same level as an adult) without any effort on the responsibility those rights bring. They have hog-tied parents and any adult from being able to enforce any of the negative consequences as children. My Dad would have beat me to the second Tues of next week if I pranced out in a thong and make-up and told him to _ off, it’s my “right” when I was 10. Even the more well off kids parents had some level of earning something and skin in the game. Pay for 1/2, top grades, something….not just handed to them with no responsibility….and privileges taken away when they didn’t pull their weight.

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  • capitalismrocks
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:11am

    Its fine if they are living home, but hold a job and are taking care of themselves. Or paying rent to their parents – essentially showing responsibility. To just be there, living like a teenage in terms of no responsibility, rent, obligations (being a grown up) just sets a very bad mindset for the kids and they can never get themselves adjusted to going it alone and being an independent individual… this needs to a culture of “neediness” which is just what Democrats want – subordinate, needy, irresponsible persons who don’t know how to be self reliant, strong and independent – which is what Conservatives are.

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  • DanWesson455
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:11am

    You done with HS? Are you going to College? Get out, join the Marines or get a job but get out!

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  • parmajohn
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:07am

    My Kids knew at a early age that they were getting luggage for their 18th birhdays and they had a choice….Paper or Plastic

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    • zymogene
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 1:49pm

      That’s great…..I got the option of a box and help packing.

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    • Blacktooth
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 3:23pm

      I was not pushed out, I wanted to go, to get out there and be an adult. That was my goal and I made it happen.
      I do not understand what happened in the last fifty years, but there are no more adult aspirations in the young.

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    • ZaphodsPlanet
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 4:47pm

      @BLACKTOOTH….. That’s what liberalism does to kids. Makes them think it’s okay to mooch off the parents, or the government and that it’s okay because they are “owed” it. Reality is a bitch…. and most of us here know and enjoy it. Sad thing is that when these idiot liberal bums decide to grow up “sometime later down the road”, they are in fact missing out on so much of what life has to offer. Yes, there are the really crappy parts of learning to live within your means, or having to work when you want to play. But the rewards of freedom beat the hell out of wasting so many years of your life in your parents basement thinking someone owes you something because you’re “special”, while in fact you’re too freaking lazy to get off your own A$$. Hey… Everyone Get‘s a trophy when you decide to live in your parents basement until you’re 35.

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  • Texas Hills Patriot
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:06am

    I’m continually amazed at the “studies” that people commission.

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  • Obama_Sham
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 10:56am

    But if Encinom moves out of mommy’s basement then he will not be able to afford to play World Of Warcraft…

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  • vtxphantom
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 10:55am

    When the last kid turns 18, move, tell no one where you are moving to. Send text messages or emails to them, but do not give them your address. Enjoy your life and hopefully you gave them the skill base to live.

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    • WhiteFang
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:14am

      Will that actually work? Oh, I hope so. Ha ha.

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  • Elev8n
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 10:46am

    N Word, Paleaze.

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  • YepImaConservative
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 10:42am

    Yepper. I remember my Father sitting me down 2 days after HS graduation in ‘76 and stating… “so which service are you entering, college is not in the family budget?” Lol.

    And there ya’ have it! Retired after 30 years in the Active Army and Reserves, 2 college degrees, great benefits… AND have never been back! Not even to visit the old bast*rd. Lmao… only kidding, I visited, but e’s still an old Bast….!

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    • IMCHRISTIAN
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:03am

      Thank you for your service to this country. I am so sorry that you have been and still are so bitter about your father. There are times that the birds are kicked out of their nest to get on with life. I hope some day you can have a conversation and listen carefully and maybe you will find out more about your father and his life and mend your relationship. Maybe there is something about him you can’t mention and I hope you find love and peace. God Bless and smile it would look good on you.

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    • YepImaConservative
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:18am

      Yo IMCHRISTAIN. I guess humor and sarcasm eludes you, lol.

      Thanks for playing and the compliment.

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    • rfycom
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:22am

      ******* you off really good. No one should take anything away from your service, but come on baby doll. Stop mooching off the government. Stop taking the Gov retirement checks and get a real job. Yea I know you served your country. We cannot afford you anymore. Sorry

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    • SgtB
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:38am

      @RFYCOM, It isn’t the veterans and their retirement that we cannot afford. It is however the soc. sec. checks. You see, whenever you put money into soc. sec. the gov’t spends that money and issues the trust fund a bond. This is how the gov’t “invests”. So over the last 3/4 of a century people have been paying extra taxes, gov’t has spent those taxes, and the next generation has had to pay the previous generation back for their loan in the form of gov’t bonds. It isn’t the couple million who spent 30 year in the service of the nation that we cannot afford to pay, it is the ones who want us to pay back their taxes that we cannot pay.

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    • Mateytwo Barreett
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 11:55am

      He mabe an old bas.. but he;s the only one you get I miss the hell out of mne!

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    • YepImaConservative
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 12:11pm

      Lmao. Just came back to this story and was astonished (no, not really) by what RYFCOM stated.

      So, not really knowing what RYFCOM is all about, went to his profile to see his comments on other stories to make an assessment. Lol.

      Here is one comment he made to another poster (I’m still laughing)… “Let‘s meet at the bar later PEOPLE I’m buying….. well my own. NO job, no house, just a computer and a beer.”

      Lmao RYFCOM…. did I happen to mention I was an Army Recruiter at one time? I can help you with that “real” job! ROTFLMAO!

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    • YepImaConservative
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 12:35pm

      >SGTB (Short for Sergeant?) Stop! You’re making too much sense! Well, anyways if the SGT is for Sergeant whether it be Military or maybe Law Enforcement.. thanks for the comment and service to our country if I’m right.

      >MATEYTWO. C’mon… it was a friggin’ joke… sarcasm and humor regarding his pointing me in a solid direction where at that point there was none… abrupt as it was! The point is… sometimes some of us have to be “nudged” by our parents into making a decision based on certain criteria (whether it be family financial or otherwise) to get the hell outa’ “their” house and go forth and make our way in the big bad world. It was a fantastic idea (nudge) my father gave me… and a great world-wide eye opening journey from a very, very humble beginning.

      And yes… he’s still and old bast*rd! How dare he make me move out and get a career! Lol.

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    • IMCHRISTIAN
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 1:25pm

      @yep Sorry to disappointment but I have a fantastic and spontaneous sense of humor. However, when it comes to fathers, I am sensitive as mine was abusive,etc. but when I THINK someones family life is in trouble I have this habit of trying to fix things. It makes me very happy to know you were just kidding. Have a good life, my friend.

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    • JLGunner
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 1:39pm

      I would gladly pay retirement benifits to any retired service member ove the his and her flights to go on vacation that the obamas continue taking.

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    • YepImaConservative
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 2:20pm

      Fair enough CHRISTIAN. Btw, I’m a Catholic… get it? Lol.

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    • YepImaConservative
      Posted on September 5, 2011 at 2:22pm

      Thank you GUNNER! And I will spend it wisely!!

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  • tankyjo
    Posted on September 5, 2011 at 10:41am

    DUUUUUUUUH! This is part of the plan to destroy family in America.

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