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Sexting: One 14-Year-Old Girl’s Nightmarish Story of Sending a Naked Pic to Her Boyfriend

Sexting, or sending sexual text messages to friends, is a surprisingly common phenomenon among the youth. As of 2009, about 20% of teens admitted to “sexting,” according to the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy.

Sexting: One 14 Year Old Girls Nightmarish Story of Sending a Naked Pic to Her Boyfriend

In the New York Times, there‘s a sad and shocking story of how sexting altered one young girl’s life. She was only in eighth grade when it happened:

One day last winter Margarite posed naked before her bathroom mirror, held up her cellphone and took a picture. Then she sent the full-length frontal photo to Isaiah, her new boyfriend.

The couple broke up not too long after that. Then, Margarite’s ex-boyfriend forwarded her naked picture on to another girl. That girl forwarded the picture on to everyone in her cellphone contact list. Those people forwarded the picture on to more phones so that in less than 24 hours, hundreds–maybe even thousands–of people had seen a naked picture of Margarite:

They broke up soon after. A few weeks later, Isaiah forwarded the photo to another eighth-grade girl, once a friend of Margarite’s. Around 11 o’clock at night, that girl slapped a text message on it.

“Ho Alert!” she typed. “If you think this girl is a whore, then text this to all your friends.” Then she clicked open the long list of contacts on her phone and pressed “send.”

In less than 24 hours, the effect was as if Margarite, 14, had sauntered naked down the hallways of the four middle schools in this racially and economically diverse suburb of the state capital, Olympia. Hundreds, possibly thousands, of students had received her photo and forwarded it.

In short order, students would be handcuffed and humiliated, parents mortified and lessons learned at a harsh cost. Only then would the community try to turn the fiasco into an opportunity to educate.

Though sexting is not illegal, if the senders and/or receivers of the text involve minors, child pornography laws could kick in. So in this case, the police eventually did end up getting involved. On the drive to school–where the police were waiting to question Margarite–she “sobbed uncontrollably, feeling betrayed and degraded.”

“When I opened my phone I was scared,” one of Margarite’s peers at school said. “I knew who the girl in the picture was. It’s hard to unsee something.”

Read the whole story here.

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  • chipformica
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:27pm

    “One day last winter Margarite posed naked before her bathroom mirror” This says it all. Like there haven’t been a million stories and situation publicized already, Anyone that is stupid enough to send or forward this stuff gets what they deserve.

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  • inferno
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:11pm

    You can’t fix stupid !

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  • KOCHLEFFEL
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:11pm

    Her parents must be proud!

     
    • Pouncing Porcupine
      Posted on May 30, 2012 at 9:27pm

      Her parents must be idiots. I have a young daughter, and I assure you that as long as she is in my care, she will not have the opportunity to do what this girl did.

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  • Conservophiliac
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:08pm

    Umm, being naked is not illegal. Unless she was in a sexual position it is not illegal to have a photo of someone any age naked. Think about how many people have bathtub pictures of kids. So if she was just standing there no harm no foul. Stupid nonetheless.

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    • obama_binpharteen
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:17pm

      CONSERVOPHILIAC
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:08pm
      Umm, being naked is not illegal. Unless she was in a sexual position it is not illegal to have a photo of someone any age naked. Think about how many people have bathtub pictures of kids. So if she was just standing there no harm no foul. Stupid nonetheless.
      ———————————————————————————————-

      Some months ago there was a report on a couple who had simple pictures of their kids in the tub. The person at the shop that developed these pictures reported these pics to the police. I don’t remember the outcome, but I believe the authorities tried to prosecute this couple, etc.

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    • Kalshion
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:24pm

      No, being naked isn’t illegal. Sending naked photos of a CHILD around IS illegal. Read the law please :)

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    • Kalshion
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:30pm

      No one said it was being naked is illegal. However, sending a naked picture of a child IS considered illegal under the child porn laws.

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  • sbenard
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:07pm

    Amazing how blindly stupid we can be as kids. Most adults could have seen this coming a mile away! Parents, do you know where your children are?

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  • packa14
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:04pm

    mess with the bull you get the horns!! stop whining and start thinking!!!

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  • jakartaman
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:02pm

    This young lady is still a victim. I totally agree with personal responsibility but who among us at 14 did not do something(s) really stupid. Parental education, especially in this brave new information age is required.

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    • MaggieRose
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:16pm

      no kidding! We just didn’t have “friends” with cameras catching every stupid thing we did… thank God!!

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    • WhiteFang
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:25pm

      Jakartaman,
      “but who among us at 14 did not do something(s) really stupid”

      I of course was stupid at 14 but I never even thought of exposing myself nude to anyone. What is wrong with kids today? They have no sense of dignity or modesty, no self respect. This is the saddest thing I can see, the deterioration of morals in our society.

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    • Stoic one
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:33pm

      First time I chose to drink….boom black out

      took ALL my clothes off and climbed 30 feet up a tree. took my party buddies 20 minutes to get me down.

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    • 1959
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:41pm

      @Whitefang

      My thoughts exactly. Sad beyond belief. Instilling, teaching and modeling self-respect, dignity, and modesty by parents is one way to help our young people withstand the immorality surrounding them in media and technology.

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  • Its Gonna Getcha
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:00pm

    This will be interesting because a lot of men, even in the west, want to place all the blame for their excitment on the woman, and of course, she’s an evil seductress. Maybe some new language and laws can help people talk about this. Maybe then the young teens will no longer feel the need to dress all hoochee, we get over the hump of women still acting the way they think men want them to act in order to “land” him.

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    • Stoic one
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:30pm

      WHAT IS THAT? in your pic? my eyes say a white rat?

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    • Its Gonna Getcha
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 2:52pm

      @Stoic one – It‘s a lab mouse with a human ear growing on it’s back. It’s a real experiment for growing human parts. You can easily google it and find a lot of info. How did you get your username to be a link?

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    • Stoic one
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 9:51pm

      in your profile below changing your password all the way towards the bottom below where you can add a picture; you will find the add-a-link spot…..

      thanks for the info on the “MOUSE” !

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    • Its Gonna Getcha
      Posted on March 28, 2011 at 2:28pm

      You got it. Makes you wonder what has gone on behind closed doors, or what could happen if the science was in the wrong hands. See ya around.

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  • ShyLow
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:00pm

    Children Of The Porn

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    • trolltrainer
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:54pm

      Sad but funny…

      I constantly get a kick out of those who insist that our morality is not in decline when generation by generation we continue to accept and even encourage all new lows.

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  • 1959
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 12:59pm

    Something is seriously wrong with our society when sexting among our young people is commonplace. Tragic. Pray for them.

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  • drattastic
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 12:57pm

    yup

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  • MaggieRose
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 12:56pm

    and this poor girls parents were where, exactly? Sheesh… what a mess… let‘s hope she gets the support and counseling she’s going to need.

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    • Insipid
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:05pm

      Plenty of good parents have kids that do stupid things. It’s a terrible life lesson but I would like to venture she wont touch that hot stove again. Hence a step toward true wisdom “leaning from mistakes” as where insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. I would like to think her parents are supporting her in this rough situation.

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    • MaggieRose
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:14pm

      so very true, Insipid… I hope her parents are supporting her and she gets through this in one piece. I pray for her strength to walk the halls in her school… Hopefully she will turn this around and use it as an example for other students not to do such life-altering things! Maybe some kind of peer-to-peer counseling…

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  • greggor
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 12:56pm

    As wrong as it is.. the person who is wholly responsible for this mess is the guy who forwarded, what was supposed to be a private picture, to anyone else. Sure.. she foolishly thought it would be ok.. but what he did was disgusting and intentionally meant to cause pain. He should be placed on the sexual deviants list until he becomes an adult.
    If I were this girl’s father.. I would consider placing him on a hit list.

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    • LICENSEDTOCARRY
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:26pm

      The ex boyfriend who forwarded the picture was led out of school in handcuffs. Charged with distributing child pornography.

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    • Grim Spirit
      Posted on March 28, 2011 at 1:00pm

      Incorrect, the boyfriend is only guilty of aiding and abetting.

      The person WHOLLY responsible for this is the person who:
      1) Took the picture &
      2) Began the distribution of the picture.

      In this case, that would be the girl. She did a stupid thing, and is now suffering the consequences. SHE was the first person who distributed the picture of an under-age child.

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    • do_it_all_again
      Posted on June 1, 2012 at 1:49am

      @GRIM

      Your exactly right

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  • count_me_in
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 12:55pm

    Dad is MIA and government is taking good care of mom i am sure of it!!! Hope this little girl learns from this and figures out that there are consequences for this type of behavior….

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  • LAM2
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 12:55pm

    Parents, where are you?? And for those who think their children need to have a phone — it doesn’t have to be a camera phone. Talk with your kids, for heaven’s sake. There’s no upside for anyone in this. As for Hollywood and Madison Ave — thanks a bunch .

    For more than a year we’ve read news stories about young adult men, some still in their teens, who have had to register as sex offenders for receiving/sending nude cell phone pics of their underaged girlfriends.

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  • FLOYD THOMASON
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 12:54pm

    no lesson is truly learned until it is paid for in pain.

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  • UlyssesP
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 12:54pm

    Well well well….. she “sobbed uncontrollably, feeling betrayed and degraded.”
    She only felt degraded after getting exposed? Not when she originally sent the picture to a new boyfriend? What else has she done with new boyfriends that there are no pictures of?
    14 is the new 24 is the new 34 is the new 14

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    • kickagrandma
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:30pm

      @ULYSSESP~~~ 14 is the new 24 is the new 34 is the new 14

      Exactly!!!

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  • trolltrainer
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 12:53pm

    I find it hard to feel much sympathy for kids that do this. What did she think was going to happen when she sent that pic? Are kids really this dumb? I clearly remember being in Jr. High, experiencing my first beer, my first joint, my first playboy. I knew the consequences, I knew what I was doing was wrong. An eighth grader is almost fully developed mentally, it is not like a 5 or a 6 year old.

    Listen, she made a mistake and now she will have to live with that. I hope she learns and grows but I surely do not know how she can keep on in the same community. This is going to hang on her through high school until she can get out of Dodge…

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    • Nobamazone
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:12pm

      she made a very bad choice, no doubt about that
      but an 8th grader is NOT close to fully mentally developed! think about yourself when you were that age, even early 20′s… don’t know about you, but I know that I made some very bad decisions, thinking I knew exactly what I was doing, only to look back now and realize that I knew very very little.

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    • maryslittlelamb
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:26pm

      Having had a child who took some missteps early in life it was my sad duty to participate with her in a rehab program aimed at putting the family back together. One thing the parents were taught was that while the teen’s mental capacity was well along in development the MORAL capacity was not. Like a baby’s bones it was still pliable and vulnerable. In that setting the point was to illustrate why the effects of drugs and alcohol are so much more immediately dramatic in children and teens than in adults.

      This girl most likely never gave her parents any indication she would even think of such a thing, especially at such a tender age, so it never occurred to the parents to bring up such a sordid subject. At least that’s the way it was in my case.

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    • trolltrainer
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:50pm

      mentally developed does not equal fully mature! Heck, I am STILL growing and I passed the downhill side of 40 well over a decade ago…

      14 is old enough to make life decisions, in many cultures children this age are married off! By the time I was 14 I was working, hunting with firearms and bow, and buying most of my own clothes and goods. I was starting to save for a car. I will agree that 14 is not an adult, far from it, but it is also no longer a child. A decision like sending a nude picture of yourself is not a complicated one. We can blame the parents, society, the schools, technology, or anything else we can think of but bottom line it was HER OWN stupidity. I am sorry for her, it is a hard way to learn this lesson, but it is her fault.

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  • Capitan
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 12:53pm

    We grew up worried about big brother and this generation posts everything.

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    • Doctor Nordo
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:07pm

      Exactly.

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    • Stoic one
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:25pm

      And that is why socialism is not so threatening to them. They share everything on Facebook and cell phones and sundry other technologies. Nothing wrong here on the social networks, right? So the young see the government as another type of social network.
      just a thought….

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    • Nervous Investor
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 2:23pm

      CAPITAN and STOIC ONE You are both so right !!!!! I suppose they do it “because they can” (to paraphrase a certain past President) …. with no thought of consequences ….. just of desires and rights …………….. I suppose that there is no fixin’ those who are 4ever DUMB.

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  • kickagrandma
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 12:52pm

    I’m so glad I grew up when our bodies were something the real us were “in” and the thought of anyone seeing us naked, even ourselves, was beyond comprehension. Gee, there was so much more to look at in the world. I feel so sorry for the young people who have been caught up in the promiscuous web of lies of hollywood and tv fantasies. Real life situations can’t be erased by clicking the “off” button.

    Bless them all.

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    • mrzmac
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:15pm

      @kickagrandma…thinking the same thing…whatever happened to the time when girls were mortified if they were seen changing clothes and boys were thrilled to see a mini skirt? Unfortunately, the friend was right “you can’t unsee something”…today kids see so much through the use of phones, computers, tv and movies…nothing is left to the imagination.

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  • ADNIL
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 12:49pm

    Another young victim of technology.

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    • IAMINFIDEL
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:11pm

      That’s like saying a gunshot victim is a victim of guns! Come’on, please! A gunshot victim is a victim of the perpetrator, and Margarite is a victim of her own immaturity and the immaturity of her peers.

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    • Showtime
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:24pm

      Another victim of one’s own lack of good judgment.

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  • TSUNAMI-22
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 12:48pm

    That’ll teach her. She must have very good parents who have been very adept at instilling morals and virtue into their children.

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    • Maire
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:01pm

      to Tsunami-22:

      Are you saying you’re responsible for every choice your children make? Are you saying every choice your children make is a direct result of your teaching and instilling morals? Obviously you have no children, or are simply in denial.

      Children start making their own choices, starting at a very young age. I wish I could control my kids’ choices, because then my life would be much easier. The fact is that kids make stupid mistakes, and this is one of those stupid mistakes. Sometimes those mistakes lead to horrific consequences. This is one of those times.

      Don‘t judge parents by their children’s mistakes. Even at the age of 14, kids make choices that we as parents just shake our head about.

      I have four kids ranging in age from 17 to 33. One thing I have learned is that I can’t really take credit for their good choices, and I can’t really take credit for their bad ones. I can just give them to God and trust Him to guide them.

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    • Showtime
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:26pm

      @Maire ~~
      You are a good parent!

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    • TSUNAMI-22
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:41pm

      Who allowed the 14 year old to have the phone? Who paid for the electronic device in the first place?

      I agree with you that the parents shouldn‘t be blamed entirely for their kid’s choices, however, that child is still a MINOR and thus the parents still bare some of the responsibility.

      I can factually discuss an example of which an 8 year old took a picture of their private parts with a Nintendo DS2 video game and then brought it to school. Who’s responsible if that picture lands the 8 year old in detention or suspension, the child or the parents who improperly supervised the child?

      There’s a reason for legal precedent regarding minors vs adults.

      Sounds to me like you DO have kids and your trying to deflect past behavioral indiscretions on their part due to your poor parenting skills.

      You could have made your point without getting personal.

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    • Islesfordian
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 2:45pm

      Yes, children will do stupid things, but the range of stupid depends in large part upon their upbringing: what morals are taught AND exemplified; how those morals are enforced; and what influenced the child is allowed to be subjected to, what company she is allowed to keep. Some of these things takes great effort, and we live in a lazy and indulgent age, so it is not a surprise that even “moral” parents wind up with children doing shocking things.

      No unmonitered computer usage
      No bedroom TV
      Homeschool or parochial school

      Keep them away from the jungle and the sewer!

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    • Physicist_In_Training
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 5:46pm

      Tsunami, I see your point, but I think your harshness is a bit unwarranted. I have absolutely fantastic parents (they’ve been married over 30 years now). They homeschooled me and did a great job at it; all our computer use was monitored; we did not have bedroom TVs — in fact, we only had one TV, and it only had public television on it (all 7 channels of it!). We attended church every Sunday; my mother is one of the most pious, generous, loving, and kind women I know, and we all were raised with a respect for the law, that came in part from my dad’s being in law enforcement. They did all the right things, but that didn’t stop me from being a headstrong little know-it-all when I was a teenager.

      Granted, there is definitely a correlation between a child‘s ability to mature into a decent human being and the strong involvement of that child’s parents in his/her life. Of course, parents should not be absconded of all responsibility for their children’s actions. I am very grateful for my mom and dad, because I don‘t think I’d be the strong, mature, successful, and rational woman I am today, nor have such a strongly developed moral code.

      …But, once again, that didn‘t stop me from doing some stupid things against my parents’ will (and sometimes knowledge) when I was a teen. I’m sure the same can be said for most people.

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    • avara
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 9:05pm

      This girl’s parents should be held responsible for the distribution of child pornography. I am truly disgusted by the laziness of these parents. If they were doing their job as parents and taught her the importance of moral values this child would not have been posing naked to begin with. Like wise with the parents of the other children involved. This is what happens when you let kids raise themselves. The schools and churches and whatever else you have them involved in are not going to raise your kids. That is your job!
      Kids will make mistakes but not to this magnitude if you are doing your job!
      (and yes I do have children)

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    • TSUNAMI-22
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 9:44pm

      @ Physicist_In_Training ~

      I agree, but I’ve also found that sometimes a little tempered harshness goes a long way. Of course, everybody can have a different opinion of the definition of harsh. I can accept that.

      I was one of the lucky ones. I had a married mom and dad until I was 24. Dad was in law enforcement and mom stayed home to raise the kids. I learned what right and wrong were at an early age. I did some stupid stuff too, but I thought about the possible repercussions before I did it. I’ve never done drugs and I only got drunk once when I was 16 – and that was at a wedding. I got so drunk that I was laid-up for the 4 days following, but I never got drunk again ~ I’m 48 now. I also managed to keep IT in my pants while I was going through the hormonal years and never created an unwanted life and never put a female in a position to have to make a choice (abortion).

      I went to church all through my youth and more or less thought it was a waste of time ~ the message is good, but the messenger (priest) could bore the crap out of anyone. I felt that I could still believe in God but I despise organized religion. To me, it cheapened it.

      I had no personal tv or video games…they weren’t even invented yet. I compensated by building and flying model airplanes. I also draw aviation from time to time and I’ve sold some pieces.

      I’m a private pilot (fixed-wing), and a instructor pilot (rotorcraft). I paid for all of it from my own work ethic. It was tough, but worth it.

      If I wanted something I had to earn it and then wait for the reward. I learned patience and tenacity. I failed at some things too, but failure breeds character. Kids now-a-days are spoiled and sissified. They think they’re entitled, and the schools perpetuate and propagate those feelings. Today’s society is the result of that.

      Parenting can be a tough job at times, but the parents need to realize that it doesn’t stop when the child becomes of age.

      Parents – pay more attention to your kids. Don’t fail them through cursory effort and lack or quality time. Make the time. Otherwise it might lead to garbage in, garbage out. It’s just that simple.

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    • warrior21
      Posted on March 28, 2011 at 3:44am

      Marie,

      Your right! Teach and them the morals and virtue they will need during their lifetime. However, after teaching them, stay in contact and guide them by checking to insure they understand they must suffer the consequences of their actions. Remember, Reagan said “Trust, but verify”. Even, at fourteen, I am sure this young lady understood what she was doing by sending a naked photo to her new boyfriend named “Isaiah”. Perhaps, she sent a similar photo to all her new boyfriends?

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    • Juliana
      Posted on March 28, 2011 at 1:36pm

      Agree with Maire. to many people, this may not even seem like a moral issue. The girl simply let someone see her. To a teenager, this is (althought very stupid) a sign of trust or to feel confident.

      She may or may not have a functional, value-teaching family. Are you saying you have done everything your parents have told you to? That EVERYTHING you learned is by example from parents? That every mistake you’ve made is fault of your parents? Hmmmm…

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  • BlackMan
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 12:48pm

    WOW! readers share this with your children before they do the same dumb thing.

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    • Showtime
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:22pm

      Good idea., Wake-up call!

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    • Hoosierchap
      Posted on March 28, 2011 at 7:28am

      @ Blackman….
      I just did. I use these kinds of “learning tools” on my grandchildren. I want them to see what happens on the other end of technology. Kids don’t think about that….they live in the here & now. I’m just grateful that it was a different world when I was 14…who knows what I would have done! One thing is for sure…I wouldn’t have taken a naked pic of myself…way too modest for that! And that is the real crux of the problem….there are no morals, with limitless access to the worldwide net! Not a good combination!

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  • ccrabill
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 12:47pm

    Innocence lost is one of life’s greatest tragedies. Thank God for His gift of forgiveness, grace, and mercy that is new every morning.

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    • sissykatz
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:17pm

      @ccrabill

      I completely agree. The loss of innocence is a tragedy. You stated it beautifully.

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    • Showtime
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:21pm

      Amen to that!

      “What could go wrong by sending this?”
      “Is this a smart idea, and if so, why and why not?”

      Those are two questions she could have asked herself to save herself a lot of embarrassment. My daddy would have taken my phone away until graduation from college had I done that!

      Showtime  
    • angelcat
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 2:22pm

      I concur. How sad that a 14 year old would even want a “boyfriend” to see her this way. As I was growing up, not even the “loose” girls would have considered such a thing because their church, parents, the community, even their friends would have condemned such action and her reputation would be ruined forever. Now there doesn‘t seem to be any such thing as a concern for one’s reputation.

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  • 1959
    Posted on March 27, 2011 at 12:45pm

    Lesson learned the hard way.

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    • 1959
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 12:51pm

      She degraded and betrayed herself in the first place by sending the nude picture to her “boyfriend.”

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    • hersey10
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:06pm

      I completely agree , when you send a text or a picture it’s now essentially public information via the rule of unintended consequences .

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    • Showtime
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:13pm

      A wise friend once old me not to write anything that I would not want published on the front page of The New York Times. That was before the age of camera phones, but the same advice applies.

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    • lovenfl3
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:22pm

      Why are these young children sending naked pictures, as if nobody else will ever see them. Another example of our society in decline. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lUA3iQjLH4g

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    • Chuck Biscuits
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:26pm

      I have a friend who, about ten years ago, thought it would be a good idea to pose for Playboy and become a Cyber Girl. She has since been fired from two jobs, and her pictures are still out there. But she does have lots of Facebook friends! ;o

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    • Hoosier Daddy
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:30pm

      Just because technology is amoral doesn’t mean we should use technology imorally. Does this girl still have the cellphone? If so, why?

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    • 82dAirborne
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:32pm

      What really bothers me is that these are children. Children by definition do stupid things. We should do everything we can to stop it. However, branding them as “sex offenders” is wrong. For good reasons society looks at sex crimes differently than most. That stigma can remain on these kid’s records forever.

      This should be treated much differently than adults trafficking in child porn. It just isn’t the same. I understand that justice is supposed to be blind. But not blind and stupid.

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    • grandmaof5
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:40pm

      It’s the old “consequences for your actions” ruse….imagine. Any young ladies (and even old stupid ones) who think their reputation is safe with a man, is delusional (and that goes for guys too). In these cyber-times it’s not worth the risk.

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    • sissykatz
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:41pm

      @83dairborne

      You are absolutely right. Blind and STUPID is not a good combination.

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    • Trevorkian420
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:41pm

      Sad part is she’s considered a victim, really? you mean to tell me by the age of 14 she didn‘t know this was a bad idea or hadn’t heard of this thing happening before plz come on I’m tired of every person that has something bad happen to them being a victim

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    • BuckOfama
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 1:55pm

      Stupid is as stupid does

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    • Tnredneck
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 2:04pm

      What the heck is a 14 year old child doing with a boyfriend???? Not saying they can’t be friends but I would think she was a little more involved. I have 15 and 17 year old daughters and the boys know better than to get too close my daughters. If they try anything my daughters will throw them out on their azz, they will get bitten by the dogs and then have to deal with me.

       
    • ShyMan
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 2:10pm

      PSSP

      The Public School Socialization Project strikes again.

      If you send your daughter to public school she will be sexually harassed by boys and girls and teachers on a daily basis so much she will end up doing stuff like this or worse.

      Get your kids out now.

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    • anutter
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 2:17pm

      Sad but true. Nowadays I look back and laugh at the embarrassing stuff I’ve put myself through as a kid. Hopefully one day she will see the same.

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    • GONESURFING
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 2:22pm

      Kids are so stupid these days, but we did stupid stuff too, glad I finally grew up.

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    • 123gone
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 2:31pm

      Actually she was very lucky, her stupidity only resulted in a viral picture and not a pregnancy.

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    • pappy
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 2:41pm

      First question I have is——> Why do these kids need cell phones & texting gadgets?? What the hell is soooo important that they are always using them. I see them driving while texting or talking while it’s clearly obvious they are NOT fully focused on driving. I even see my 32 year old son using his quite frequently. What could possibly be so important? Secondly, I notice teenage girls & boys fall in love about 5 to 8 times per school year. I recall my daughter, while in Jr. Hi…. Her notebook had “I love ”X”…” The next week, that would be crossed out & would read “I love ”XX”… Then “I love ”XXX”… an so on. Perhaps this story will open a few eyes?

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    • RCScrolls
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 2:56pm

      Anyone think anymore, what the Hell is a 14 yr old feeling betrayed about.
      She knows the ability of Her phone. When crap like this makes the news , its sickeniing, just another way to dull us to the fact that 14 yr olds are children, take the phone from her now!
      They have enough in life toworrie about, like school, careers etc. Take the phone dont give it back until She is 18. I would trust Her with a license either at 16, she would end up drunk and a dui case.
      Adults need to be adults again. You dont have to let your children keep up with the world.

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    • FlatFoot
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 3:01pm

      I’ve been a police officer for 22 years. In those years I have inspected the cell phone contents of many a juvenile’s cell phone in the course of my duties. From ingoing and outgoing texts, to photos, to videos on those phones. Some of the things I have seen and read on them have been horrifying to say the least. Then I advise those parents of the contents of their precious snowflakes phones, and even show it all to them. Some of the parents/guardians were indifferent and didn’t seem to even care. They were more angry with us for arresting their little bundle of joy than anything else no matter the circumstances. Then you see quite plainly that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree sometimes. But most of the parents audibly gasp at what I would show them on their child’s phone. When I ask them when the last time was that they inspected their child’s phone or monitored their phone and internet activity most of them also said, “Never. I didn’t think I had to.” Some would go so far as to suggest, absurdly, that they didn‘t want to invade their child’s ‘privacy’, and that they want to be their child‘s ’best friend’, and friends don’t do things like that. Oh the many times I have wanted to slap a parent upside the head in the effort to help them realize that they are the greatest deterrent -of all deterrents- to their child’s future as inmate of the month at the downtown lockup.

      Constantly monitor your children’s internet and cell phone activities. It is purely that simple and very easily done if the parent(s) would just expend the slightest effort and the little time it takes to do so. It is precisely about love and caring for your children that dictates to a parent the absolute requirement for monitoring all of their activities be they online or outside. But you also show that love and caring by spending as much time as you can with them and include them in your activities from mundane chores to fun excursions to extracurricular activities that are all about your children.

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    • DagneyT
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 3:01pm

      I just pray that her parents are strong in the Lord Jesus, so that they can deal with the self-loathing & hopefully prevent this sad little girl from taking her life. Too many kids aged 14-17 sadly do just that when dealing with crushing peer pressure..

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    • Mee the People
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 3:28pm

      its only a matter of time playboy will be calling her for a photo shoot

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    • Taquoshi
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 3:37pm

      Flatfloot – One of the things that disturbs me is that if someone sexts someone else who forwards to yet a third person, that third person (who by the way is only guilt of having a cell phone) could open it and immediately have child pornography on his/her hands through no fault of their own. Do they just delete it, report it, what? If you report it, you are guilty of possession. If you delete it, it’s still on the phone records. Either way, you’re guilty. What does one do?

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    • calamari12
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 4:11pm

      This is a case of a stupid girl getting the punishment for a stupid action. The other children, while mean and cruel did what I would expect any mean and cruel person to do. She should have known better. Here’s hoping she learned her lesson and every other child in the nation who is even contemplating such stupidity learns from her.

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    • dkhartman
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 4:32pm

      No, sometimes lessons aren’t learned unfortunately. This same exact story almost to a T happened at my nieces school last year. She is in the eighth grade. In fact, I thought this was that story till I saw where it happened. Little girl sent pic to bf. Bf sent it to others etc. Same story. However in my town, the little girl who took the picture is still the same. Promiscuous and young. She didn’t like nthatbit got sent around but she liked the attention it got her. Anyone who sent the picture in my nieces case, well the original senders, went to jail for child pornography. How when they were kids themselves? Anyways pray for these children… Sad times we are in….

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    • Physicist_In_Training
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 5:28pm

      Haha. I was stupid when I was 14, but NOT stupid enough to trust a 14 year old boy with a naked picture of myself. I’m not sure anyone particularly enjoys middle school, but you’re just asking to make it worse for yourself if you do stuff like that. Hopefully when this girl stops feeling sorry for herself she’ll take a moment to reflect on what happened and learn something from it.

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    • Emrys
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 6:50pm

      82dAirborne is right:
      “What really bothers me is that these are children. Children by definition do stupid things. We should do everything we can to stop it.”

      Fourteen year olds will do incredibly stupid things, especially when in love. I blame the parents just as much, if not more, than the teenager. She should have been brought up to have much more self-respect than this. I see this as a teacher all of the time in other ways, parents not parenting. Their children often have to learn the hard way.

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    • watchmany2k
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 7:37pm

      I read thru the first page of comments here and not one of them was mentioning the boyfriend’s duty, nor honor. I don’t think he should go to jail, but an apology in public and some community service along with some real mentoring by real men.

      I have had lot’s of relationships in my life, some good and some terrible, some hurt me, some I hurt.
      No matter how bad it was I would never humiliate someone like that no matter the temptation.
      It is a simple matter of honor, MY honor.

      Somebody needs to teach our young boys how to be men of honor.
      It‘s been going downhill since the first bra was burned in the 60’s….

      I learned some of it from boy scouts, some from church, some from books
      I learned the most from my father, my uncles, and the men in the community
      sometimes a good old fashioned backhand impresses the point….

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    • Libertyluvnmomma
      Posted on March 27, 2011 at 9:32pm

      BRINGBACKNIXON- interesting.
      keep it up.

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    • Ditto Head
      Posted on March 28, 2011 at 3:01am

      @MOMMA
      You’d be well advised to read or see some of Griffin’s material for yourself.

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    • Libertarian Infidel
      Posted on March 28, 2011 at 7:48am

      What’s amusing to me is that officers like flatfoot have probably seen more child pornography then the people they arrest for child pornography. Why don’t they arrest themselves after they view it, since they have just committed the exact same crime?

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    • mikem1969
      Posted on March 28, 2011 at 9:23am

      One more reason kids don’t need cell phones. They all need to learn TRUE responsibility first and need to be at least 17.

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    • foobear
      Posted on March 28, 2011 at 10:31pm

      Teens have always done stupid things.

      It’s just much easier to publicly embarrass yourself these days.

      And have records of it lasting forever.

      But then again, our schools aren’t teaching the digital citizenship skills kids really really ought to be learning, so maybe we could start there.

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    • jackrorabbit
      Posted on March 29, 2011 at 2:33am

      Somewhere, I wonder where, an idiot teen with a cell phone and camera on it is repeating it.
      Lesson to parents, don’t give your children cell phones with cameras!

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