User Profile: bonniejean53

bonniejean53

Member Since: September 02, 2010

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  • July 30, 2014 at 5:12pm

    As the mother of an autistic child and someone who works with autistic children, I feel I can speak to what you are saying. It is a very difficult and challenging life with a child like one of these. I hope you are able to find someone you trust that can stay with your child while you have some much needed time away from the unpredictable and explosive frustration expressed by these children. It is extremely rare, not impossible, for them to learn different behaviors but taking them out to a “fancy restaurant” will only serve to frustrate everyone involved, mostly your child. As you know, they do much better in familiar surroundings, these are not times where they need discipline over something they cannot control. You and your spouse need a break. I hope you can get one regularly, planned and scheduled, for all of your sakes.

  • July 30, 2014 at 5:01pm

    If those current “singles” are unable, as young adults, to recognize poor parenting resulting in boorish, unmannerly children than it will be a good thing that they avoid this establishment. FYI: Interesting that you asserted that those singles will likely be “marred” later with kids. Freudian slip perhaps?

  • July 30, 2014 at 4:54pm

    I understand your frustration and I appreciate your parenting, it sounds like your kids are a pleasure to be around. Unfortunately, the problem is not really the children, it’s the parents. Can you just imagine what it would be like attempting to get the unruly parents of these unfortunate children to quietly leave the restaurant? Yes, it’s a shame that those who seem to have children as accessories as opposed to raising adults that everyone has to suffer. The worst part of this is, if you read the comments from many of the parents they claim “everyone’s kids behave that way!” and if you say it’s not true, YOU are lying. The one’s who are guilty, never think it’s them.

  • July 30, 2014 at 4:25pm

    I think this story is attracting so much attention because so many people have had to deal with it, are frustrated by it and, for a brief moment, have a national forum to spout off about it. I know it made me feel better!

  • July 30, 2014 at 4:18pm

    I really hope you’re kidding.

  • July 30, 2014 at 4:17pm

    Have you ever worked in a restaurant and had to clean up after a single child, let alone a family of them?? Even when my kids were little and I occasionally took them to a McDonald’s I cleaned up our mess, floor too (with my kids helping). This isn’t going to cost them anywhere near as much as it will save them.

  • July 30, 2014 at 4:07pm

    Against the law? On what grounds?

  • July 30, 2014 at 3:42pm

    I sure hope not. If anything I think it will drive their business way up. If I were to be in the area, I would go just to show my support.

  • July 30, 2014 at 3:32pm

    I hardly know where to begin. This is still The United States of America right? “no shoes, no shirt, no service.” “If you are drunk and belligerent you will be escorted out for the safety of all our patrons.” “You must be (this tall) to ride this ride.” “You must be accompanied by an adult in this premises.” I could do this all day. Why do you assume that all “rules” are intended to discriminate or harm people as opposed to protect? And as to your last statement, who are you to tell someone, anyone, that they must abide by YOUR ideas of what is right and “fair” and just. Do you think it is “right or fair or just” that someone who has invested their time, talent, resources, long hours, risk and sweat, into running a profitable business that employs others and is a benefit to their community has no rights themselves? By whose standards? Who gets to be the one to decide what is “right and fair and just” in his family and community. Are you so wise, all knowing and perfect that you believe that you or someone of your choosing should make those decisions? Should the day come that you are able and willing to work as hard as most entrepreneurs do, I hope you still have the freedom to decide what is “right and fair and just” for yourself.

  • [1] July 30, 2014 at 2:56pm

    Sadly there is no logical or reasonable explanation of any kind, only the idiotic variety that defies explanation, sorry.

  • July 30, 2014 at 2:50pm

    Thank your sister! And, if it were possible, I would be happy to go and babysit so she could enjoy a peaceful night out just for being so considerate of others.

  • July 30, 2014 at 2:47pm

    I think it’s a story because so many of us are so frustrated with the situation being all too common and “heaven forbid” you should say something to the parents!!! They are usually more obnoxious than their kids (which tells you where their behavior comes from). I don’t think it’s just the obnoxious kids, I think it’s the general lack of civility that we see so much today. As bad as the time was for us all, I remember the weeks after 9/11. I think we all have fond memories of feeling that, no matter our politics or any other agendas, we were all Americans, and it mattered. There is no reason we should have to wait for another tragedy to remind us of what we have in this country, that no other country has ever had. I’m tired of political correctness, I’m tired of feeling like we need to apologize for things that happened almost 200 years ago. Since the dawn of time there have been “good” guys and “bad” guys, can we at least agree on that and come together as the caring, forgiving, loving, proud, courageous and patriotic Americans we were after our worst days??? Please consider what each of us can do, individually and in groups, to bring ourselves back to the people I believe we all know we can be.

  • July 30, 2014 at 2:22pm

    I’m so glad to know you will not be frequenting establishments that would prefer not to have screaming, crying, whining children (not to mention some of the parents). I hope all “Fine-Dining” restaurants will follow suit, that way we will all be happy. And for those of you who think “Fine-Dining” restaurants should allow all such behavior (and seemingly encourage it), why not get together and open a chain of such restaurants so you can cater to those of you who are fine with it. It looks like there’s a market for it. Let’s see how well you do! I wish you well! I’d love to here some other ideas and potential names for such establishments.

  • [2] July 30, 2014 at 2:03pm

    I would hope most people are considerate enough to at least put their phones on vibrate. I must say there is nothing more sad than watching a couple, who obviously spent a great deal of time getting “glammed-up” for their romantic night out, and watching while each of them is “talking” with some other person on their phones!? What’s up with that????

  • [6] July 30, 2014 at 1:35pm

    Douglas50, I don’t know where or how you were brought up or whether or not you have any children of your own but I am so grateful to my parents, my extended family and the community that I grew up in because we knew where the line was drawn, which is something children want and need. None of us were abused into mindless control, we were loved into it, while learning that with respect comes respect. I’m sorry your experience was so different. I don’t know your situation so I cannot, nor would I judge, please realize that there are many who cannot relate to your experience, please do not judge us either.

  • [3] July 30, 2014 at 1:24pm

    To camerclick, I, too, have a child that is autistic. If I had to go out and knew there would be a scene, and there was no one who could handle it. He went with me. It never occurred to me to subject countless people to an extremely upsetting situation. The other customers would have no idea what the problem was, the child could have been a kidnap victim or a victim of domestic violence. Think before you assume everyone in a restaurant is going to be educated and aware of your child’s specific circumstances. Most of the time we would order “to-go” and eat in the car saving everyone, especially my son the trauma he was subjected to.

  • [2] July 30, 2014 at 1:11pm

    I agree, I love kids and love especially to see them outside playing but when my parents moved to a seniors only condo because of dementia related issues, the association in that area was told they had to allow children. My parents had to move because of the trauma the kids (unintentionally) caused my parents. We are losing our freedoms, and not slowly anymore. Business owners should be able to cater to the clientele who’s needs they are best able to meet. Who decided that anyone and everyone has the right to inflict their opinions on everyone else. There are enough places that cater to everyone in this great land. If you are looking for a place where your lifestyle is welcome, you will have no trouble finding it. Why do some of you feel that only your rights matter?

  • July 30, 2014 at 12:59pm

    Having two separate areas is an expensive proposal, can you imagine the cost of sound-proofing alone? I think the problem is the parents who do not want to take the time to learn how to discipline their children, threaten that which they will never follow through on and treat their kids as if the sun rises and sets on them. Which is a terribly cruel thing to do, because when they enter school and find out the sun doesn’t rise and set on them and their are rules that must be followed and manners that must be adhered to (that teachers should not be responsible to teach, isn’t that what parents are for?). Then, the kids, out of confusion rebel. It’s time to start acting like grown-ups and stop expecting the school or the church to teach your children what is clearly your job. I have hope for the new generation of parents coming up, they seem to be more responsible (there are always exceptions). Those of us who remember it wasn’t always easy could help by encouraging those parents who seem to be struggling, the truth is, they may be going through something we can’t imagine. Speak the truth in Love, but speak the truth.

  • July 28, 2014 at 6:08am

    Not only has Bill Ayers been unrepentant, he has also stated he wished he had done more. Are you perhaps thinking he was feeling badly that he didn’t sell more girl scout cookies? I think you might be happier if you could find an island all to yourself and your delusions.

  • July 28, 2014 at 5:57am

    As to your comment “I pray D’Souza will now look at what I call as the “flying carpet & glue” that is destroying us and that is Cultural Marxism i.e. political correctness.” I’m concerned that so many people seem to be wanting to put all our hopes, dreams and aspirations into the hands of just one man. Even though I know most people here know there are many others who believe as we do, that we want our Republic to survive and thrive. We must ALL play a part, each and every one of us can do something. Find out what you are good at and do it. We will soon be reaching a point of no return, if we haven’t already. We must all come together and support one another, we have to stop assuming some night in shining armor is going to come and rescue us, WE ARE HIM.

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