Encinom, what we are actually talking about here is the DEFINITION of marriage. Anyone can be married as long as they fit the legal definition, which in nearly every culture and throughout nearly every age in history has focused on men and women. And why is that? Because marriage has existed primarily for the propagation of the human race, and marriage between a man and a woman has time and again proved to be the best environment for the nurturing children.
My sister forwarded me a link to “Why I Am No Longer A Brain-Dead Liberal” last year, and when I got to this comment, I guffawed out loud and knew David and I were meant to be life-long friends:
“[B]ut any of us who has ever been at a zoning meeting with our property at stake is aware of the urge to cut through all the pernicious bull**t and go straight to firearms.”
And as a graduate of the BYU American Studies program, I loved this quote, too:
“For the Constitution, rather than suggesting that all behave in a godlike manner, recognizes that, to the contrary, people are swine and will take any opportunity to subvert any agreement in order to pursue what they consider to be their proper interests.”
That’s why I think cohabitation leads to a greater divorce rate than marriage – that “Well, if this doesn’t work out, we can always walk away,” attitude. The idea that a commitment is only as strong as the outside forces buffeting it, and there is a “eject button” to push if things get too tough – how dooming and depressing!
Family and marriage takes work. Love takes work. It has never been otherwise! Those are the most important things we have, and of course they are the things that will need the most investment and effort. That’s why I built them on a foundation of marriage, not a “test run.”
If more of us women would just say, “What the heck are you thinking???” to a guy who tries to be less than an honorable man, I think things would change. Real “girl power” is out there, if we would only harness it and not sell ourselves so short.
A wedding magazine I glanced over before I got married had the advice, “Since almost all brides have been living with their groom before the Big Day, a wedding really isn’t about the joining of two lives as one anymore – it really represents conspicuous consumption of the bride’s family.” And then went on gleefuly to assist in putting on the best show ever. I tossed it aside. How terribly sad!
My question has always been, “How do ladies expect to get a nice guy to marry them if they have sex with him beforehand?” Marriage first, THEN you share a bed, a home, a life together. Why would a guy go through all the trouble to marry you if there wasn’t something more to be had once he says “I do”?
My husband likes to say, “WOMEN – you can‘t live with ’em, and you can‘t kill ’em!“ After I give him a ”But they can kill YOU!” look, I laugh. He knows it’s too expensive to get away from me, and besides, even with all his teasing, he likes me being his.
I thought the same thing – Paul Linnman is not that old, and it is impossible for a whale to wash up on a beach in Portland, OR! If it could, I wouldn’t have to drive nearly two hours to get to the Oregon coast! Who writes these articles, anyways?
P.S. Silk, Dave Barry is one of my favorite writers – I’m looking that whale article up!
Our president and Congress couldn’t run a household on budget if they tried!
Excellent points all the way around. Just because Mrs. Romney has more money than I do doesn‘t mean she isn’t empathetic to the plight of other women, and I appreciate what you said.
I work full-time in the medical industry, speaking two languages and coordinating the shipment, delivery, and troubleshooting of pacemaker and defibrilator products, while my twin sister takes care of two rambunctious little girls with a third baby on way. I don’t yet have kids. Neither of us owns a house yet, we have husbands beginning their careers, and we make do with big dreams and limited budgets. We both graduated from the same university (go BYU!!!) with degrees in the liberal arts. Guess which one of us is more exhausted by the end of each day?
Hint: it sure as heck isn’t me!!!
My sister is non-stop teaching, training, playing, creating, cleaning, cooking, planning, bathing, refereeing, and raising her children. There is NEVER a break for her, NEVER a moment of peace, NEVER a time where she isn’t working on behalf of her children.
Me? Weekends, holidays, and every evening I am off work and not studying my languages or my work manual means I am OFF THE CLOCK. Yeah…. I have it easier by far, and besides – I get a paycheck for my troubles, while she does not.
MSNBC Host Tweets That Same-Sex Marriage Is a ‘Civil Right’
May 20, 2012 at 11:46pm
Encinom, what we are actually talking about here is the DEFINITION of marriage. Anyone can be married as long as they fit the legal definition, which in nearly every culture and throughout nearly every age in history has focused on men and women. And why is that? Because marriage has existed primarily for the propagation of the human race, and marriage between a man and a woman has time and again proved to be the best environment for the nurturing children.
Utah School Fined $15,000 for Accidentally Selling Soda During Lunch
May 17, 2012 at 9:18pm
We may be downtrodden when it comes to our lunch boxes in this country, but at least capitalism isn’t going to slink off and die quietly!!!
What Turned Filmmaker David Mamet From ‘Brain Dead Liberal’ to Conservative?
May 9, 2012 at 8:48pm
My sister forwarded me a link to “Why I Am No Longer A Brain-Dead Liberal” last year, and when I got to this comment, I guffawed out loud and knew David and I were meant to be life-long friends:
“[B]ut any of us who has ever been at a zoning meeting with our property at stake is aware of the urge to cut through all the pernicious bull**t and go straight to firearms.”
And as a graduate of the BYU American Studies program, I loved this quote, too:
“For the Constitution, rather than suggesting that all behave in a godlike manner, recognizes that, to the contrary, people are swine and will take any opportunity to subvert any agreement in order to pursue what they consider to be their proper interests.”
I think I have a wee bit of a crush….
Does Cohabitation Damage Marriages? Dueling Op-Eds Weigh the Odds
April 20, 2012 at 4:40pm
That’s why I think cohabitation leads to a greater divorce rate than marriage – that “Well, if this doesn’t work out, we can always walk away,” attitude. The idea that a commitment is only as strong as the outside forces buffeting it, and there is a “eject button” to push if things get too tough – how dooming and depressing!
Family and marriage takes work. Love takes work. It has never been otherwise! Those are the most important things we have, and of course they are the things that will need the most investment and effort. That’s why I built them on a foundation of marriage, not a “test run.”
Does Cohabitation Damage Marriages? Dueling Op-Eds Weigh the Odds
April 20, 2012 at 4:32pm
If more of us women would just say, “What the heck are you thinking???” to a guy who tries to be less than an honorable man, I think things would change. Real “girl power” is out there, if we would only harness it and not sell ourselves so short.
A wedding magazine I glanced over before I got married had the advice, “Since almost all brides have been living with their groom before the Big Day, a wedding really isn’t about the joining of two lives as one anymore – it really represents conspicuous consumption of the bride’s family.” And then went on gleefuly to assist in putting on the best show ever. I tossed it aside. How terribly sad!
Does Cohabitation Damage Marriages? Dueling Op-Eds Weigh the Odds
April 20, 2012 at 3:30pm
My question has always been, “How do ladies expect to get a nice guy to marry them if they have sex with him beforehand?” Marriage first, THEN you share a bed, a home, a life together. Why would a guy go through all the trouble to marry you if there wasn’t something more to be had once he says “I do”?
My husband likes to say, “WOMEN – you can‘t live with ’em, and you can‘t kill ’em!“ After I give him a ”But they can kill YOU!” look, I laugh. He knows it’s too expensive to get away from me, and besides, even with all his teasing, he likes me being his.
Colo. Considering Blowing Up Frozen Cows Found in the Mountains — Cue Flashbacks of the ‘Exploding Whale’
April 18, 2012 at 12:10am
I thought the same thing – Paul Linnman is not that old, and it is impossible for a whale to wash up on a beach in Portland, OR! If it could, I wouldn’t have to drive nearly two hours to get to the Oregon coast! Who writes these articles, anyways?
P.S. Silk, Dave Barry is one of my favorite writers – I’m looking that whale article up!
President, VP Taxes Revealed: Guess Who Doesn’t Qualify for Buffett Rule and Who Gives 1.5% to Charity
April 13, 2012 at 5:49pm
I almost guffawed out loud at WORK over that comment!
Hilary Rosen Apologizes to Ann Romney: ‘Let’s Put the Faux ‘War Against Stay-at-Home Moms‘ to Rest’
April 12, 2012 at 5:16pm
Our president and Congress couldn’t run a household on budget if they tried!
Excellent points all the way around. Just because Mrs. Romney has more money than I do doesn‘t mean she isn’t empathetic to the plight of other women, and I appreciate what you said.
Hilary Rosen Apologizes to Ann Romney: ‘Let’s Put the Faux ‘War Against Stay-at-Home Moms‘ to Rest’
April 12, 2012 at 5:13pm
I work full-time in the medical industry, speaking two languages and coordinating the shipment, delivery, and troubleshooting of pacemaker and defibrilator products, while my twin sister takes care of two rambunctious little girls with a third baby on way. I don’t yet have kids. Neither of us owns a house yet, we have husbands beginning their careers, and we make do with big dreams and limited budgets. We both graduated from the same university (go BYU!!!) with degrees in the liberal arts. Guess which one of us is more exhausted by the end of each day?
Hint: it sure as heck isn’t me!!!
My sister is non-stop teaching, training, playing, creating, cleaning, cooking, planning, bathing, refereeing, and raising her children. There is NEVER a break for her, NEVER a moment of peace, NEVER a time where she isn’t working on behalf of her children.
Me? Weekends, holidays, and every evening I am off work and not studying my languages or my work manual means I am OFF THE CLOCK. Yeah…. I have it easier by far, and besides – I get a paycheck for my troubles, while she does not.