A writer took to the pages of the Washington Post to blame President-elect Donald Trump for stealing her desire to date.
In an op-ed posted Monday, writer Stephanie Land of Missoula, Montana, said that her love life had been going well over the last few months and that she had been on the verge of a new relationship.
“But two weeks later, the election happened,” she wrote. “Once it was clear that Donald Trump would be president instead of Hillary Clinton, I felt sick to my stomach. I wanted to gather my children in bed with me and cling to them like we would if thunder and lightning were raging outside, with winds high enough that they power might go out. The world felt that precarious to me.”
Land wrote that the morning after the election she attempted to console her young daughter, although she was “scared to send her to school, out into the big sky country of the red state where we live.”
She wrote that in the midst of the emotions she was experiencing, such as “hopelessness; fear; uncertainty about the future; panic over having to talk to my 9-year-old about anything that might come up at school, or what to do in the instance of sexual assault,” she realized she couldn’t reach out to her new partner.
“He was too new, too unfamiliar,” Land wrote.
She added that she has “lost the desire to attempt the courtship phase”:
The future is uncertain. I am not the optimistic person I was on the morning of Nov. 8, wearing a T-shirt with “Nasty Woman” written inside a red heart. It makes me want to cry thinking of that. Of seeing my oldest in the shirt I bought her in Washington, D.C., that says “Future President.”
“There is no room for dating in this place of grief. Dating means hope. I’ve lost that hope in seeing the words ‘President-elect Trump,’” Land concluded.