When Ellen Burkhardt decided to share an intensely personal detail about her life with the public, she likely had no idea how people would react.
Ellen Burkhardt (Image via Twitter @burkcity)
The 26-year-old writer from Minnesota recently penned a piece about abstinence titled, "When Guys Find Out I’m a Virgin."
In it, Burkhardt shared her faith-based decision to wait until she's married to have sex — a choice that she said often leads her into some uncomfortable conversations with boyfriends.
But despite the frustrating relational barriers, the writer affirmed that it's a decision she fully stands by.
Burkhardt, a Christian, candidly discussed her reasons for waiting until marriage. And rather than receiving scrutiny, she has been showered with support and accolades for sharing her perspective.
"Clearly I've hit a nerve and maybe more people feel the way I do," she recently told WCCO-TV. "You can live a normal, fun life and date a lot and still be considered normal by society's standards — and not go there."
Burkhardt told the outlet that she believes that it's important to be in love before having sex with someone and admitted that she's never experienced this emotion.
She addressed this theme in more detail in her op-ed, writing that she's a "hopeless romantic."
"I believe wholeheartedly that sex and love should coexist. In fact, I believe they need to coexist; that without love, sex is just a Band-Aid fix for something that should be addressed with words rather than walks of shame," Burkhardt wrote.
She added, "What’s more, I’m an obnoxiously picky person who avoids letting go of control, being vulnerable and making mistakes at all costs — a by-the-book Type-A perfectionist."
Burkhardt has tweeted since writing the piece that she hopes it inspires others like her to realize that there is nothing wrong with waiting until marriage to have sex.
And she has received a plethora of support on social media from others who admire her and who have made the same decision — a response that far outweighs negative comments on the matter.
See just some of the reactions below:
Great article by a brave woman named Ellen Burkhardt. It gives great insight on the struggle Christian women face to stay pure.— Brock Bandolik (@BBandolik) October 10, 2014
We need more people like Ellen Burkhardt in this world..she's just telling her story without judging others— Bre (@ILTSBre) October 9, 2014
@burkcity Just read your article. Glad you wrote it. I'm hoping to grow that same maturity in my 9 year old daughter.— Erik Fisher (@ErikJFisher) October 13, 2014
@burkcity thanks so much for your open and honest article for Salon. Superb writing!— Andy Gent (@andygent) October 13, 2014
Loved your article about virginity - I'm in the same shoes, so it's always awesome to find another supporter! @burkcity— Natalie Gorna (@natalia_gorna) October 13, 2014
@burkcity Your article is amazing, my sister and I completely relate to it. I hope that is just the first of more awesome articles from you!— Ajia Wilson (@AjiaDesigns) October 13, 2014
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(H/T: Daily Mail)