Squires: 'Pink Book Lessons' fearlessly promotes a 'no wedding, no womb' standard in a culture where women want babies but not husbands

In a world where singers dress up like Satan, politicians twerk for votes, and social media influencers will do anything to go viral, one of the most important figures trying to bring a sense of decency and order to our culture is a woman who never shows her face.

Pink Book Lessons is a popular YouTube channel that gives out straight talk about the importance of order and roles in relationships. I first learned about Pink Book Lessons when my wife sent me a video that compared the views of single teen mothers in Newark, New Jersey, to the professional boss chicks of today. Both groups claimed they didn’t need a man to raise healthy, well-adjusted children. The first group of women were poor and depended on the government to play the role of father. The second group is educated and financially secure, so they don’t need anyone to play the role of provider.

The woman behind Pink Book Lessons sees the behavior of both groups as a problem and is willing to state the obvious: Loving and secure two-parent homes are the ideal environment for raising children and provide the best launching pad for multigenerational prosperity.

She frequently uses terms like “Magic City uniforms,” “304 behavior,” and “simpterventions” to describe the behavior of women with no decency and men with no backbone. She is clear and unambiguous in her belief that marriage should come before children and that “baby-mama culture” is destroying the black community.

In some sense, she is filling part of the void that was created by the untimely death of Kevin Samuels. The image consultant turned relationship guru became a popular figure in the manosphere for his willingness to speak hard truths to black women seeking advice on how to snag a “high-value” man.

But in another sense, Pink Book Lessons is what you get when you combine the anonymity of Libs of TikTok with the message of Shahrazad Ali, author of "The Blackman's Guide to Understanding the Blackwoman." That book came out in 1989, and Ali made appearances on daytime talk shows with Phil Donahue and Geraldo Rivera. Her central premise was controversial but straightforward: “My position is that the black woman's disrespect and rebellion against the leadership and authority of the black man is a direct cause of the breakdown in our family structure.”

Pink Book Lessons, much like Ali, understands that no community can rise above the condition and character of its families.

The entire household is under attack. Men stand back silently as schools talk to their children about sexuality. The influence of 60 years of feminism has trained women to compete with men in relationships, rather than complement them. Helpmeets have been replaced by headaches. The abandonment of relationship roles by both men and women has weakened marriages. What used to be seen as a lifetime commitment has morphed into just another stage in life that couples enter and “graduate” from in order to focus on themselves. The net result of this instability is that children are left unprotected and vulnerable to the people who need foot soldiers to radically upend our social norms.

The solution to this is simple but not easy: We need to beta-proof men, rebel-proof women, divorce-proof marriage, and culture-proof our children.

Pink Book Lessons mainly focuses on the behavior of women because she sees the influence that older women have had on Gen Z and Millennials. She is critical of celebrities like Ciara and Keke Palmer – who is currently pregnant by her boyfriend – who promote, justify, or glamorize putting the baby carriage before marriage. She also criticizes women like Malika Andrews for what she sees as their open contempt for black men. Like Shahrazad Ali, Pink Book Lessons sees many modern black women as unwilling or unable to follow the leadership of black men – in any arena. Even some husbands are the fourth-most respected men in their wives' lives, after bosses, fathers, and pastors.

Her popularity – over 235,000 subscribers – shows that there is an appetite for this type of content. One thing that is encouraging is that her videos periodically feature women under 25 who understand that the boss chick, alpha female lifestyle that is ubiquitous in the culture has been a bad deal for women.

Feminism convinced women that the apex of womanhood was being like a man in terms of career aspirations, sexual appetite, communication style, and even style of dress. Feminism convinced women to reject femininity in order to achieve gender equality.

The result has been a culture in which women think, speak, and behave like men. This is why they typically talked about their ambitions and financial independence when Kevin Samuels asked questions about what they could offer a man. Samuels would typically ask whether they planned to spend significant sums of money on a man. Most did not, which is why he frequently informed them that men are looking for a woman who is fit, feminine, friendly, and cooperative.

Perhaps this is not what men today desire, but that would largely be due to the influence of feminism on their worldview.

Matt Walsh recently caused a stir online by saying all a man needs to be happy is to come home to a wife, grateful children, and a warm meal. The responses to his tweet – likely the least controversial thing Walsh has ever said – were telling. Lisa Guerrero, an investigative journalist, had this response: “All a woman wants is to come home from a long day of world domination to a grateful puppy who is glad to see her and a hot lover who will rub her feet and not tweet dumbassery from 1952.”

Even former Fox News host Megyn Kelly chimed in. She claimed some men – like her husband – prefer the “vibrancy” and “excitement” of a career-oriented woman to one who ensures he has a warm meal each night.

These responses show why the need for platforms like Pink Book Lessons reaches far beyond the black community.

Men across all ethnic groups still have the same basic roles and duties as their grandfathers. At a minimum, an able-bodied man is expected to provide for his family and protect them. One who does neither can expect to be criticized harshly in today’s culture.

Not so for the fairer sex. The ultimate sin in our culture is to place any limitations on a woman. Any notion that she has roles, duties, and obligations to someone other than herself is treated like a return to the 1950s. Even women who divorce their husbands and break up a stable domestic life to light a spark with another man are given sympathetic write-ups in mainstream publications.

Legalized abortion already convinced some women to devalue the exclusive privilege and responsibility they have to bring life into the world. Now the home itself has been devalued. Cooking and cleaning are seen as drudgery and menial tasks that can be outsourced to hired help and food delivery services. But a home should be the central hub for productive economic, social, educational, and spiritual activity. Proper nourishment and a welcoming environment help set the stage for that type of productivity.

What we need is a Titus 2 revolution, where dignified, faithful, and solid older men teach younger men to exhibit integrity and self-control. Likewise, older women who are modest and sober are needed to teach younger women to be self-controlled, love their husbands and children, and prioritize their homes.

It’s not that all modern women are anti-family. Many want to be married and have children and are not bashful about saying they need a man. Sometimes a woman like this is derisively referred to as a “pick-me,” often by other women who have convinced themselves they don’t want a family to hide the pain of not having those desires fulfilled.

Then there are others who want kids but have no desire for a husband. These are the women who are in Pink Book Lessons' crosshairs. They have rejected the natural order because they believe their desires are more important than a child’s need for a present, active father.

It is good to know that fearless men have an ally working to teach valuable lessons to women. Both are needed if we want to see our country and communities rise.