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Advice Columnist Stuns Yet Another Reader Who Wrote Seeking Help 'Rescuing' Her Boyfriend
Andrew W.K. attends the 6th Annual Shorty Awards on April 7, 2014 in New York City. Credit: Neilson Barnard/Getty Images for Shorty Awards

Advice Columnist Stuns Yet Another Reader Who Wrote Seeking Help 'Rescuing' Her Boyfriend

"You know what the biggest negative vibe is in this situation? You."

Self-proclaimed “king of partying” Andrew W.K. is making a name for himself as an advice columnist by essentially giving readers incredibly insightful advice that they likely don’t want to hear at the moment.

In his latest advice column, W.K. responds to “Sick of Negative Vibes, who writes seeking help “rescuing” her boyfriend from the “evil” music he listens to. As he tends to do, W.K. begins his response with some tough love.

“You know what the biggest negative vibe is in this situation? You.”

Read more of his response below:

Dear Sick of Negative Vibes,

You know what the biggest negative vibe is in this situation? You. Trying to make your boyfriend give up the music he enjoys -- that is true negativity. I understand how you're feeling, but rather than censoring someone's experience, I suggest you strive to develop your own spirit and make it large and strong enough to appreciate and interact with all types of emotional concepts, all types of feelings, all types of people, and all types of beliefs -- including those that deal with the ideas of darkness, cruelty, death, destruction, anger, hatred, and evil. Desperately trying to hide -- or make other people hide -- from certain types of feelings is a losing battle. And it's likely that we'll experience more hurt and damage in our efforts to avoid that part of the world than we will by developing a heart and mind capable of engaging with the full spectrum of reality, from light to dark, and beyond.

It's interesting how often people confuse "evil sounding" music with true evil. By its very nature, music is benevolent. Music means well. It's virtually impossible to bend the will of music toward a truly negative intention. Music can be used to achieve all sorts of things, depending on who wants to use it and for what purpose, but the music itself is pure goodness. Music doesn't waste its time in dealing with human concepts like "good and evil." Thankfully, music exists in a realm above and beyond the need for logical ideas and theories. Music is where we can find relief from reason and truly experience "pure feeling." Music is what feelings sound like -- feelings before we analyze and deconstruct them into digestible abstractions like "happy feeling" or "sad feeling." Music is just pure feeling.

For this reason alone, it's probably the greatest gift humanity has to work with. And also one of the most mysterious. It would be a total disrespect to lower our conception of music to something as literal as a "mood" or an "emotion" or a "negative" or "positive" idea. Music exists outside of all that. And that's why it feels the way it feels and doesn't feel like anything else. No amount of reading or movie-watching or eating or even sex can quite equal the inexpressible pleasure of music for music's sake. We must always remember this, especially when we begin to doubt the value of music or question its intention. Humans may have intentions, but music doesn't. Music is humanity with all the bullshit removed. Music is humanity at its best.


So please don't give your boyfriend a hard time about the music he loves. Just love him and be glad he has music in his life that brings him joy. You can bring him joy too, or you can be a force that takes his joy away. And what would fill the void left by the absence of his music, anyway? It would probably be filled with his resentment for you, and more anger and disharmony than his "evil" music ever brought into your relationship in the first place. Your intentions may feel noble and justified, but they're only going to cause harm. Too much damage in this world is caused by people trying to "remove" what they don't like from existence. I hope you put your energy into adding joy to the world. And please don't ever again try to take away someone's music.

Your friend,
Andrew W.K.

W.K., who recently appeared on TheBlaze TV with Glenn Beck, has penned a string of viral advice columns lately, including one where he urges a reader to view his conservative father as a human being rather than a political ideology. In another column, he pleaded with an apparent atheist to pray for his sick brother at the request of his grandmother -- but he offered a very unique spin to the process of "prayer."

You can read W.K.’s latest advice column in its entirety here.

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