Kai Cole, the ex-wife of "feminist" writer, producer, and director Joss Whedon, published an article on TheWrap in which she called the social justice warrior and entertainer a "hypocrite" for his treatment of her and other women.
Who is Joss Whedon?
Whedon is a liberal filmmaker who has prided himself on being a "feminist." The entertainer has been extremely outspoken about President Donald Trump. Whedon in April shared a deeply offensive joke at the president's expense on Twitter, but deleted it almost immediately after receiving bipartisan backlash.
The controversial post showed a picture of House Speaker Paul Ryan (R-Wis.) welcoming young women to the U.S. Capitol with a caption stating: “Tonight on White House Wife Hunt, Donny makes host P. Ryan give 2 more contestants the ‘Not a 10’ card.”
According to the original posting of the photo by Ryan's office, the young women in the photo were cancer survivors.
“Advocacy is not limited to adults. These Wisconsin teens shared some powerful stories with me about their fight against childhood cancer,” the speaker posted on his official account.
In May, Whedon shared an over-politicized tweet commemorating Mother's Day at the Trump administration's expense.
Whedon wrote, "Today I gratefully give my mother the gift of having been dead for 25 years and not having to see what a tub of f***ery our country's become."
Despite his proclamations that women should not be marginalized, harassed, or sexualized, Whedon compared first daughter Ivanka Trump's physical appearance to that of a dog.
About Ivanka's husband, Jared Kushner, Whedon in January tweeted, "Hey, keep your eyes on this f***ing prize too. He's a Voldemort in training, & unlike the Pekingese he married under, can play the long game."
What did Cole say?
In her write-up at TheWrap, Cole sought to obliterate any notion that Whedon could be anything but an apparent womanizing, demoralizing misogynist.
About her 16-year marriage to Whedon, Cole wrote:
There were times in our relationship that I was uncomfortable with the attention Joss paid other women. He always had a lot of female friends, but he told me it was because his mother raised him as a feminist, so he just liked women better. He said he admired and respected females, he didn’t lust after them. I believed him and trusted him. On the set of “Buffy,” Joss decided to have his first secret affair.
Fifteen years later, when he was done with our marriage and finally ready to tell the truth, he wrote me, “When I was running ‘Buffy,’ I was surrounded by beautiful, needy, aggressive young women. It felt like I had a disease, like something from a Greek myth. Suddenly I am a powerful producer and the world is laid out at my feet and I can’t touch it.” But he did touch it. He said he understood, “I would have to lie — or conceal some part of the truth — for the rest of my life,” but he did it anyway, hoping that first affair, “would be ENOUGH, that THEN we could move on and outlast it.”
Joss admitted that for the next decade and a half, he hid multiple affairs and a number of inappropriate emotional ones that he had with his actresses, co-workers, fans and friends, while he stayed married to me. He wrote me a letter when our marriage was falling apart, but I still didn’t know the whole truth, and said, “I’ve never loved anyone or wanted to be with anyone in any real or long-term way except for you ever. And I love our life. I love how you are, how we are, who you are and what we’ve done both separately and together, how much fun we have…” He wanted it all; he didn’t want to choose, so he accepted the duality as a part of his life.
Cole revealed that Whedon later admitted to her — as he told her that he was leaving her for her own sake — that the only way for him to work through his guilt over his incessant cheating was to act "righteous" to balance his conscience.
About the fallout from her marriage, Cole said:
I went from being a strong, confident woman, to a confused, frightened mess. I was eventually diagnosed with Complex PTSD and for the last five years, I have worked hard to make sense of everything that happened and find my balance again. It has not been easy, because even though in my personal life I have been completely open about what happened, publicly people only know his superficial presentation of us: him as the lovable geek-feminist and me in the background, as his wife and supporter.
Cole concluded her editorial by warning the world at large that Whedon is not what he appears to be.
I want to let women know that he is not who he pretends to be. I want the people who worship him to know he is human, and the organizations giving him awards for his feminist work, to think twice in the future about honoring a man who does not practice what he preaches.
"I am free," Cole said.
Whedon is a man who resonates with millennials and has made long-lasting impressions on generations dating back to the '90s with his "forward-thinking" rhetoric and praise of women. However, if Cole's account of her marriage to Whedon is accurate, then it's apparent that a man who has repeatedly excoriated President Trump for his own treatment of women and who continues to rail against the Trump administration to this day, is nothing more than a puffed-up hypocrite with his own god complex to deal with.
Perhaps society should stop looking at "heroes" like Whedon to save the world and look to what's moral and right instead.