Kim Kardashian says she is all about herself.
The social media superstar explained in a new interview that her pending divorce from Kanye West stems from her decision to become a hyper-individual whose No. 1 priority is herself.
What did Kardashian say?
Despite having been married to West for seven years and mothering four kids with him, Kardashian told Vogue she is now about "Team Me."
"For so long, I did what made other people happy," Kardashian explained. "And I think in the last two years I decided, I’m going to make myself happy. And that feels really good."
"And even if that created changes and caused my divorce, I think it’s important to be honest with yourself about what really makes you happy. I’ve chosen myself. I think it’s okay to choose you," she continued. "My 40s are about being Team Me. I’m going to eat well. I’m going to work out. I’m going to have more fun, spend more time with my kids and the people who make me happy. I’m going to put my phone down."
Kardashian's bizarre mission statement comes after she and West filed for divorce last year. Though the petition for divorce cited "irreconcilable differences," West has publicly stated several times that he desires to fight for his marriage.
Kardashian, however, has blamed West for "trying to control and manipulate" the situation, claiming he is "causing further pain for all."
After Vogue's interview with Kardashian was published, West posted on Instagram: "GOD PLEASE BRING OUR FAMILY BACK TOGETHER."
This writer's perspective
Kardashian's decision to join "Team Me" might win applause from a secular culture that chases (ultimately temporary) happiness, but choosing yourself is downright depressing, especially when it causes you to celebrate divorcing the person with whom you have declared to relinquish yourself in a covenant marriage.
Marriage is meant to mature someone; two people promise themselves to each other through easy times and tough times, sickness and health, riches and poverty. I do not assume to know anything about Kardashian's marriage to West, but her admission about choosing herself, which she admitted "caused [her] divorce," and joining "Team Me" is a tragic sign that suggests Kardashian was not serious about her marriage covenant.
Before I committed my life to another person, I was counseled that throughout my marriage I would be married to "several different people." Of course, I am going to be married to the same person my entire life — but people change. Everyone goes through ups and downs; the seasons of life leave their impact. But it is up to each partner to continually commit themselves to one another.
Marriage is a covenant, not a contract. We should not leave when we are not "happy" or feel like we are not getting out of it what we want.
Though some situations may be cause for divorce (abandonment, violence, etc.), what is good and true and beautiful is when two people look beyond their own selfish desires and give themselves up for the sake of others: Their partners, their children, their communities.
May we commit not to join "Team Me," but rather build up others (especially our spouse, children, and community) through the outpouring of ourselves.