"The View" co-host Meghan McCain revealed in a New York Times op-ed that she had briefly been pregnant and experienced a miscarriage just weeks ago. McCain said she decided to publicize the situation so that other women who miscarry don't feel like they're alone or have to hide.
"Miscarriage is a pain too often unacknowledged. Yet it is real, and what we have lost is real. We feel sorrow and we weep because our babies were real," McCain wrote. "They were conceived, and they lived, fully human and fully ours — and then they died. We deserve the opportunity to speak openly of them, to share what they were and to mourn. More important, they deserve to be spoken of, shared and mourned. These children, shockingly small, shockingly helpless, entirely the work of our love and our humanity, are children."
McCain described the process of learning she was pregnant and going through all the thoughts and concerns expecting parents have about their future and what it will be like. And she also describes the immense and sometimes overwhelming shame and guilt that the miscarriage brought.
"I blamed myself. Perhaps it was wrong of me to choose to be a professional woman, working in a high-pressure, high-visibility, high-stress field, still bearing the burden of the recent loss of my father and facing on top of that the arrows that come with public life," McCain wrote. "This is not a complaint. This is reality. I blamed my age, I blamed my personality. I blamed everything and anything a person could think of, and what followed was a deep opening of shame."
Miscarriage is tragically common, with as many as half of all pregnancies and 25 percent of all recognized pregnancies ending in miscarriage. McCain said she, and surely many other women, experience those miscarriages as mothers losing children.
"I have love for all the women who, like me, were briefly in the sisterhood of motherhood, hoping, praying and nursing joy within us, until the day the joy was over," McCain wrote. "You are not alone."