Thank God my wife is too mature and responsible for this ‘Day Without A Woman’ silliness

Thank God my wife is too mature and responsible for this ‘Day Without A Woman’ silliness
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Today is the so-called “Day Without A Woman.” The idea is that women are supposed to abandon their jobs, their families and their household duties for the day in order to protest … something. As was the case with the Women’s March, most of the people involved in this demonstration aren’t exactly sure why they’re involved. From my conversations with the feminists who are either supporting or participating in this strike/boycott/whatever, it seems most of them imagine that they’re speaking out against some sort of “inequality.” When asked how, exactly, they’re unequal, they aren’t able to come up with any compelling examples. It’s more of a vague feeling, I guess. And now they’re protesting this vague feeling, and expecting their families, coworkers and employers to pick up the slack for the day.

The organizers of this protest do have a somewhat clearer idea about what they aim to accomplish, although their goals are disconnected and often not related to “women’s issues,” and it seems dubious that any of them can be accomplished by strapping on a vagina hat and calling out of work. The official “unity principals,” which serve as the foundation for today’s display, include abortion on demand, gay rights, open borders, and “environmental justice.” It’s clear, in other words, that this is not “a day without women,” but rather, more specifically, “a day for exclusively left wing feminist women to hold signs and chant slogans instead of doing anything useful.” But I guess that doesn’t roll off your tongue quite as well.

A few thoughts on today:

1. Serious, productive women have no time for this silliness.

I think it will prove a strategic mistake to associate the “Day Without A Woman” with such radical left wing doctrines, thus limiting the potential pool of participants to 22-year-old college girls and aging feminist Baby Boomers. Most of the women who actually, you know, do things in this country — raise families, work real jobs, etc. — are not in either category, therefore ensuring that life will continue on basically as normal for the most part. Now, if you could get the non-feminist mom demographic to go on strike, then you’d really be grinding the social engine to a halt. But the ladies who comprise that category are too busy to worry about these antics.

Days like today make me even more thankful for my wife, who grew up in a generation steeped in feminist mythology but rejected all of it with great enthusiasm. My wife can’t even say the word “feminist” without assuming the facial expression of someone who’s a moment away from vomiting. When I asked her last night what she was doing to commemorate “A Day Without a Woman,” she gave me a confused look (I think that was the first she’d even heard of it) and then told me she’d be bringing the kids to pre-school and then working on the store she runs in her spare time — while also being a stay-at-home mom to three kids under the age of 4 — and then she’ll pick them up three hours later, bring them home, feed them lunch, take care of them for the rest of the day, clean the house, etc. etc. etc. She’s far too much of a grown, mature, adult woman, and she has far too much going on in her life, to bother with these feminist stunts. And thank God for that.

My recommendation to any young man discerning marriage: ask your prospective bride how she feels about modern feminism. If she laughs at you, much as my wife would, you’ve got yourself a keeper. If she takes the opportunity to go on a 18-minute rant about the imaginary “gender wage gap” and the importance of “reproductive rights,” run away as fast as your feet will carry you. My friend, you just dodged a bullet. Praise Jesus.

2. This once again only harms the women it’s supposed to help.

Unfortunately, the one exception to the above rule is in the education system. Aging feminist Baby Boomers do make up a significant percentage of the staff at many public schools, particularly on the east coast. That’s why some of the biggest school systems in America shut down today to accommodate the hundreds of feminists who value their hazy, ill defined political notions over their students.

In consequence, thousands of working mothers, many of them low income, will be forced to call out of work or shell out money for childcare. The women who aren’t interested in today’s shenanigans, or who can’t afford to take part in them, will be the ones who pay the price, literally. The Patriarchy will keep humming along as normal, devising its dastardly plans to oppress our nation’s women by manspreading and mansplaining, while low-income working women take the hit. As usual.

3. The men married to these women need to step up.

Many articles have been written over the past week explaining what men can do to support the day’s festivities. Mostly, it turns out, they can do all the housework and take care of the kids so that their wives can dress like vaginas and walk around outside all day. Sadly, a certain depressingly high number of men will do exactly that.

I fully believe that moms should get a break every once in a while (as should dads), but to neglect your family as a political statement is selfish and childish. Workers usually go on strike because they believe, rightly or wrongly, that their employer is oppressing them. If you’re going on strike from your family, is that because your children and husband are oppressing you? If not, why are they being penalized? Isn’t that like boycotting Best Buy because you have a beef with Wal-Mart?

But, of course, they probably do think their families are oppressing them. That’s part of the feminist shtick. It’s why abortion and birth control are sacraments in the Church of Feminism, because they liberate women from the bondage of family life. And that just makes this “strike” all the more grotesque. And it makes me feel pangs of by-proxy-embarrassment for the husbands who allow their children and themselves to be disrespected in this way.

What can a husband do for a wife who wants to “go on strike” from the family? He can voice his disapproval. He can make it clear that he will absolutely not pick up the slack to accommodate this absurdity. He can inform her that whatever her responsibilities are around the house will be left for her to resume when she returns. He can put his foot down and show a little firmness and decisiveness for a change. He can be a leader. He can be a man, in other words.

4. YOU ARE EQUAL. YOU CAN STOP NOW.

For the sake of not being a broken record, I won’t go on a whole tangent here, as I’ve already done so many times elsewhere. Suffice it to say, women don’t need to protest for “equal rights” because they have equal rights. They’ve had equal rights for quite a while now. There are no rights granted exclusively to men in this country. There is nothing men are allowed to do that women aren’t allowed to do. Women can even join the Boy Scouts now, OK? I mean, there is literally nothing exclusively male anymore. Even the things that should be exclusively male, aren’t. And whatever shouldn’t have been exclusively male stopped being exclusively male a long time ago.

Women have all the same rights as men, except in the areas where they have more rights than men. And I’m not just referring to the fact that women fare better in court, where men face tougher prison sentences for the same crimes. Even more glaring, women are granted godlike powers over other human life. It is women and women alone who are allowed to decide whether their children will live or die. Women and women alone are given the power to kill innocent human beings. This is certainly not a God given right, nor is it a right that women benefit from exercising, but it is an extra right, anyway. An exclusive right. An unequal right.

On the flip side of that coin, many girls have been legally murdered precisely because of this right. Women are given the exclusive right to kill, but they are not given the right, while in the womb, to not be killed. The irony, then, is that this really is a “day without women” — only, it’s the women who were exterminated in the womb that we must go without today, and every other day. Feminism offers them no help. It celebrates their death as liberation and then goes on complaining about other, more imaginary sorts of persecutions. This, perhaps more than any other reason, is why no one outside of feminism can take feminism seriously. Especially today.

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