Women have a biological imperative to grow up, while men are allowed to stay adolescents in today’s society, Rabbi Daniel Lapin explained in this week’s episode.
Rabbi Lapin read a letter from a 28-year-old woman who is dating a 27-year-old guy; she described their relationship and her struggle with his refusal to act like an adult. They started dating five years ago after they both graduated with “useless art school degrees,” but since then, she’s gotten a job and makes a good living, while he has only done temp work since he graduated.
“We were happy when we were both young and broke,” she wrote, explaining how she now wants to plan nice vacations, buy real furniture and be ready to start a family. She is worried about what will happen if she gets pregnant while still having to be the main breadwinner.
“It’s a poignant, sad letter,” Rabbi Lapin said.
The woman wrote about how she is thinking about starting a family and wants to plan for the future, but any discussion with her boyfriend just leads to charged political discussions about socialism. She wants him to start contributing to their future, but he thinks he shouldn’t have to work.
Today’s society lets men stay boys while women still manage to grow up, throwing off the natural balance, Rabbi Lapin asserted.