Parents should ask babies’ permission to change diapers—for ‘culture of consent’ at home: sex expert

Parents should ask babies’ permission to change diapers—for ‘culture of consent’ at home: sex expert
Parents should ask their babies' permission before changing their diapers — in order to advance a "culture of consent" in the home, a sexuality and relationships expert said. (Image source: YouTube screenshot)

Parents should ask their babies’ permission before changing their diapers — in order to advance a “culture of consent” in the home, a sexuality and relationships expert said.

Deanne Carson told Australia’s ABC News in an interview that a parent could say something along the lines of, “I’m going to change your nappy [i.e., diaper] now, is that OK?”

She continued, “Of course a baby is not going to respond, ‘Yes, mum, that’s awesome, I’d love to have my nappy changed.’ But if you leave a space and wait for body language and wait to make eye contact, then you’re letting that child know that their response matters.”

What else do we know about Carson?

According to her Facebook bio, Carson is CEO of Body Safety Australia — “Victoria’s leading provider of positive relationship education in early childhood, primary and secondary schools.”

She also works with young people and their communities, hold workshops and writes about sex, sexuality, body safety, relationships and gender, her bio added.

More from Carson’s bio:

Deanne specializes in how young people use the Internet to explore and express sexuality. Classes and workshops address issues such as inadvertent viewing of inappropriate content, social media use, nudes, sexting, porn and sexual predators.

All of Body Safety Australia’s classes and workshops are inclusive of same-sex attracted, sex and gender diverse students.

How did folks react to Carson’s statements?

The Mirror said numerous viewers hopped on Twitter after Carson’s statements with reactions like, “I’m dumbfounded” and “If this doesn’t qualify for Lefty Lunacy…” and “The world has gone completely mad.”

How did Carson respond to all the hubbub?

“Sadly, some people have chosen to ridicule me (oh no! Pink hair! Must be a lesbian!) and the notion of giving infants bodily autonomy (poo in nappies har har amiright?!),” Carson wrote on Facebook Tuesday following her headline-grabbing interview.

She added, “One in three girls, one in seven boys will be sexually assaulted by the time they are eighteen years old. One in twelve girls will be sexually abused before their sixth birthday.”

More from Carson’s post:

The work we do with children, teachers and parents is international best practice in abuse prevention. It teaches children their rights AND their responsibilities and connects them with people who care and can help. It invites their parents into the discussion and is sensitive to cultural and family values.

Troll me all you want, add to your blog inches, but remember that when you do, you are negating the voices of these brave survivors of sexual abuse.

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